Yeh motnings can be the worse as you wake up and reality hits ! Ive been busy last few days which always helps but no doubt it will catch up with me in a few days 
xxx
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Hi
Paul died 24th July 2022 55 and a half weeks has passed
For me itās no better than it was a year ago
My counsellor says it takes as long as it takes
For me it could be foreverā¦ā¦
Come back Honey I miss you so so much
Hugs to everyone struggling
Xx
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It takes time. I am not sure you are meant to āget used to itā but rather life will gradually morph into something gentler and more manageable. So go gently and donāt expect too much of yourself too quickly x x
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Yes it takes as long as it takes to somehow āadjustā
However tell some of my āfriendsā that
Xx
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Sadly friends mean well but unless in this awfull position we find ourselves in they just have no idea at allā¦
I feel like I will just never be the same again .How do we find this new normal I just have no idea
All we can do as they keep saying is take it 1 day at a time .xxx
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Yeh indeed ā¦ i past caring what other people think tbh ā¦ just do it your own way ā¦ its our life and our love we lost - not theirs !x
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I agree, unless youāve been through it other people donāt understand even though they might think they do or at least try! Your whole world is turned upside down. However, it has made some of my friends re-evaluate their own lives. It will take time to readjust I understand that but I also know my life will never be the same again.
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Iām getting a puppy in 2 weeks. Iām hoping she helps me cope with the loneliness and lack of purpose too x
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That sounds lovely. Pets do seem to provide a lot of comfort. I wish I were fit enough to have one but it wouldnāt be fair on the pet. Love your fur baby. Xx
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My dog has been a god send! Gives me a reason to get up every morning! I meet and chat to people on our daily walk and have made some good friends through him.
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Ah morning all
Long story Paul organised puppy for me
Due date to be born 17 th September
Excited yes Paul organised before he died
Special bond even before I collect her ā¦. Sometime early November
And itās a cocker spaniel
Calling her Muffin!
Xx
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Iām calling my pup Honey, as my husband loved honey x
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Thatās a lovely name and a lovely thought. Xx
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Iām sorry itās so hard. 10 years for me next month and I still miss my husband every moment of every day. Somehow Iāve managed to get through ā¦ā¦. I guess we donāt have a choice. Sending g love and strength to all on here 
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Hi Remarkable, i lost my 35 year old son 6and a half years ago and like you I miss him every second of every day! His bedroom is the same as he left it, I am 74 and canāt wait to be with him!
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Iām sorry Suesue sending love
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Thankyou Remarkable, lots of love toy you too!
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Hi i am in the same situation as you,we moved to lincolnshire july 2022 so my wife could be closer to her sister we moved from the north west and on the 24/3/2023 she died or cancer.Now i am selling my house i couldnāt possibly stay here on my own too many bad memories and like you i have cried every day over 18weeks and see no end to it,i have sold my house and Iām buying a flat in Hunstanton by the sea but Iām not sure how i will cope alone.selling the house was extremely stressful ontop of the grief.My daughter who lives in the northwest said i should meet someone but i think that would be unfair to her,i will never forget Michelle it would have to be someone who was going through the same thing so we could help each other with the grief and the horrendous loneliness because to be honest nobody understands the enormity of losing a life partner i feel as though most of me went with her and whats left i donāt recognise i find it difficult to find joy in anything without Michelle,Iāve now got the dreaded packing to do which is going to set me off crying again,where in the northwest are you from we lived in Rossendale if you would like to talk my number is 07729696840,remember your move is not going to be easy xx
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I really feel for you. I lost my husband to cancer after a short illness the day after you lost your wife. I too didnāt want to stay in my house but I have settled much more now. The advice is not to make any major decisions too soon. The house is not the same anymore but it was our home and we both loved living here. There are many times when I feel lonely but Iām trying to keep busy and I want him to be proud.
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There seem to be very few people from the West Country on this site. Maybe it is a very healthy place to live. Not that I believe that. Probably just fewer people.