thank you for your kind words she gives me a lot of comfort and support just like Denn y does for you i always wished i learned to drive so i could take her further afield but at least i have good friends from the trust and my family that pick us up for the dog walks
yes she does give me so much love Pat
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I can relate to you asking for the table to be set for 4. I ask for 2 places to be set when eating out on my own. Usually tables are set this way and they attempt to take one setting away. I ask for it to be left. I explained this to Guest Services at a return visit to a hotel we both loved, the lovely Manager totally understood where I was coming from.
Some people have been talking about holidays alone. My friend, who lost her husband s couple of years ago, recommended ‘Just You’. It’s a group for single travellers- it’s not a dating agency. Single rooms , meals included- do no eating alone. I have a holiday booked with them in June, fingers crossed.
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that sound good as t would be a start of going away again when your ready and everyone being on their own would make it easier
the trouble i have is that i dont drive and i have a greyhound that goes everywhere i go as she suffers with seperation anxiety and since my husband died she wont leave my side at all as she thinks because patrick went in an ambulance and never came back shes scared i think i may do the same
but will keep that in mind
pat
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Hi Gordon and Denny I was just thinking about you both yesterday as I loved reading your posts when you first got him glad he is giving you so much comfort, my son got a puppy soon after I lost my husband a lurcher / saluki he’s huge but daft as a brush and fills so much of my time my husband would have loved him too, just cuddling him helps xx
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Just posted most of this on another page so I’m sorry if you read this twice
Sorry I have not posted for a month but I hate January, always have and probably always will. Never noticed it last year as I was grieving for Elaine and arranging her funeral and service of celebration of her life.
Been really down at times and it’s silly. Because I have have formed such a loving bond with Denny, I am full of guilt as I feel I am betraying Elaine as I am now having some special times with Denny either long walks when I relate stories of my life with Elaine and some of the funny things she would get up to or just sitting on the sofa and I playing with Denny’s ears and stroking his head as I used to do with Elaine.
We are growing so close that when I waken in the morning and don’t even move in my bed he knows and comes to the bottom of the stairs and cries for me to come down. When I have washed and dressed and come downstairs it is as though I have been away for weeks as he cries and bumps me and it is not easy for a greyhound to give a big front leg paw while wagging his tail so hard it might just fall off. It is now that I have time to reflect on ho many “friends” have not called me or made any attempt to get in touch when I used to be their first port of call when they needed something. Guess it’s taken me most of my life to find out that my only calling in life has been SUCKER.
On the brighter side Denny and I have made lots of new aquaintances, wouldn’t call them friends as they only meet us in the parks, but they always have time to talk to me and give Denny a cuddle. Well it is almost midnight and just come in from our last walk, beautiful cold night with very little cloud and no moon so the stars we shining brightly and am sure one of them was Elaine watching us as we wandered along the avenues and back home. Good night, stay safe.
Gordon
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Hi Gordon
nice to see you on the page again
dont feel guilty about forming a close bond with Denny i am close to my Looby and shes never away from my side we go every where together i am sure your Elaine would be pleased you have Denny in your life to help ease the pain
greyhounds are like that they seem to heal any soul as they have the biggest hearts and so much love to give
you always find out who your true friends are when its your turn to need them
i find walking with looby has helped me a lot i have got back to my greyhound walks as the the vonteers from the trust come and take it in turns to pick me up
i go and put flowers on my husbands grave and looby walk with to there
yesterday my daughter came with her dog and went and had lunch in a dog friendly cafe and it felt so relaxed there with eveyrone in there talking to you and with their dogs i think me and Looby will be going there on a regular basis
keep Denny close like i do Looby and friends only want you when they want something all as Denny will ever want is you and always be there for you with comfort when you need it and Elaine will be looking down happy to see you have him in your life as patrick will on me
keep walking with Denny and take care
pat
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Dear @nodrog
How happy would Elaine be to know that you have made room in your heart for Denny?. Whatever your beliefs are, if Elaine is all around you she will be happy that you have found some love, peace & companionship. Isn’t it what we all want for our other halves?
All the best to you & Denny
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Hi Gordon
I think it’s fantastic that you and Denny have found each other, to need and be needed is so important and I think your wife would be so happy to know that you are drawing comfort from him, dogs are such a gift, they have so much love to give x
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Dear @Lilyboost & @nodrog
You’ve both inspired me to think again about getting a pup (properly sourced & screened non-puppy farm /non gumtree origins).
Being able to love & care may mean I can live instead of just exist.
It’s a big commitment I need to be sure I can do this.
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Hi Maigret
i have a rescue greyhound like gordon they do make lovely pets and there are so many rescue dogs that need a home from the rescue centres
have you eve thought about this of having a rescue they give you so much love and will never leave you side and dont ask for much just cuddles and to be loved back and they do help you
mine even came to my husbands funeral with me in the car with me the church and the grave i would neve be without her
take care
pat
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Hi nodrog. Found your post interesting. Lost my partner last Oct. to cancer. We’d be together for 28 years. I’d been her carer for the last fifteen due to various health conditions and became quite good at housework although she always supervised doing the washing. Didn’t trust me with that one. She was a great cook and although I was always in the kitchen with her to cut veg etc because her hands were bad or take things out of the oven I never really got involved with the actual cooking because she didn’t want me too. All I can say is thank goodness just about everything you buy nowadays has cooking instructions on it and if it hasn’t there’s always the Internet. Best wishes to you. Everything. ( not just cooking) seems tough at the moment, doesn’t it?
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Hi Maigret,
Only had Denny 8 weeks but I can honestly say he has changed my life for the better. When Elaine passed I was a solo walker in all the different parks in our area. I did this because no one says hi, hello, good morning or any other greeting to a single man out walking, especially when his face says I have problems you do not know. Now with Denny even single women will smile , nod or say hi or some other greeting. I’m not suggesting you get a dog to meet people but that part will come in its own time.
Greyhounds are the most devoted and loving dogs I have known and we had a Golden Retriever, Large Munsterlander and Border Collie. loved each one of them in their own time but Denny is something else entirely. Don’t know if he understands or feels my grief but at time he will jump up on the sofa beside me and lay his head in the crook of my arm, that usually means give me a cuddle and we will get through this together. Denny sleeps about 18 hours a day and often I have to coax him to get up and out in the fresh air. Don’t be afraid to commit to a dog as they will commit to you and both of you will grow together.
I know I have only had Denny 8 weeks but what a change for the better in my existence
Try and source a rescue dog for the breed you like as they are much less work than training a puppy. What ever you do be brave and commit to a companion you won’t regret it.
Stay safe. Gordon
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Hi Pat,
I think it is wonderful that you were able to take Looby to Patrick’s funeral and services. As you say, greyhound know no bounds in their affection and it is unconditional, unlike humans.
I have only recently been able to take Denny down to the local school playing fields after school is out and let him off the lead for free running in an enclose gated area. So wonderful to see him run and stretch out in all his majesty and then come yo a sudden stop just the way he would have done when racing. Except I give him loving cuddles and hugs before putting him back on the lead and completing our walk. One benefit is that he now has a better appetite after running and always clears his bowl, which used to leave and go back to it throughout the day.
Stay safe. Gordon
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Hi Peter,
Yes every day is a challenge and even when you don’t expect it that sudden desolation jumps out and confronts you just when you thought that you were doing better. Elaine knew she was on a limited time so she made sue that I knew how to work all the different appliances, washing machine tumble dryer etc. Separate coloured from whites for laundry day and get into a weekly routine for cleaning etc. Don’t always manage the same daily ritual as she did but I mange to get everything done eventually. Yes the internet is good for cooking, all I need to do is remember and check serving sizes as more than once I have been left with a week load of soup, bolognaise or chilli when instead of 2 servings there have been 6 or 8. However thank goodness for the freezer.
Take care Peter and don’t worry if you screw up, unless they are in the same situation as you they won’t understand why this happens.
Gordon
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I have a beautiful rescue greyhound she’s my everything she’s 13 without her I would be lost had her 4year she’s someone to talk too she’s my best friend lv annie x
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Shiela hope your grandson okay lv annie x
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Hi gordon i totaly agree about resue greyhouns in perticular they have the biggest hears and souls you could ever meet dont ask for much but will give undying love and its surprising how they know how you feel
love my looby to bit dont know what i would have done without through my loss of patrick and even coming to the funeral never left my side
pat
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thats lovely to hear gordon
pity we are so far away you could have come on the dog walks with us as the sight of about 70dogs all walking together is amazing
pat
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Dear Annie11
Thank you. Both grandsons suffer ear infections which lead to spike in their temperatures and convulsions. This is something that they have got from their dad who in turn got it from his dad (my husband). When our son was young and had to be rushed to A&E my husband was the one who kept me calm. And whilst I know that this is a childhood condition which they will grow out of it only adds to my anxiety now that my husband has gone. I find living so hard now, just so hard. xxx
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