Ex husband has just passed away

Coping with bereavement
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Why do I feel so sad that my ex husband has passed away. No one understands my sadness

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Struggling with grief
Loosing a partner
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Hello Suejulez

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community. I’m so sorry to hear about your ex husband. It’s normal to feel sad when someone who has been a part of your life has died, even if your relationship had changed. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,
Naoise

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So sorry for your loss. I think your sadness is completely understandable. Just because your marriage didn’t last, it doesn’t mean you stopped feeling anything for your ex-husband.

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Thank you so much for replying. He was a big part of my life having met him when I was 20 and the father to my four children the youngest is only 21. When it was clear he wasn’t going to survive my initial thoughts were that I was just going to support my children the best way I could but after visiting him in hospital so many emotions came flooding back and I realised he was the love of my life. In all this grief I’m just lost with my memories of years ago and I have very few people I can share my feelings with. My partner just doesn’t understand.

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I do feel for you, but even in your grief try not to forget your partner. I doubt he will be able to understand how you are feeling, however much he loves you. If you can, try and speak to a bereavement counsellor and let them know exactly how you are thinking and feeling. They’ll be able to give you practical advice as well as listening.

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Its hard…im going through the same thing. Sorry 4 your loss.

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I also have the same partner struggles…hes great but doesn’t understand . My ex husband was a police officer and died on duty during his training session last year June. We shared a 10 year old son. His death was very much unexpected..and im struggling :sleepy_face:

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My estranged husband died five weeks ago. Im devastated. But feel others Dont understand. I don’t know how to deal with my feelings. It’s like everything had flooded back- all our love andmemories and sad times that I feel Im grieving for again. I’m so overwhelmed

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Trust me..everything your feeling is normal and warranty. You shared a history..time is something you cannot get back…your not alone in these feelings

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Oh bless you. I know from my experience that it’s a very lonely place to be but your feelings are totally warranted and understandable. When my ex husband passed away last September I felt so overwhelmed and alone in my grief but talking really does help xx

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