Hi sarah i lost my lovely husband of 30 years.
5 & a half years ago & the first 2 years were hell, i asked my dr for anti depression tablets & she said no im sure u dont need them, a good friend said dont take them they will make worse. So my advise is not 2 continue with the tablets.
& you are in the very early stages of grief & its only with time things will get better.
But you are not alone, when my husband died finding sue ryder web site,
was a god send id read the letters every day & have a good old cry.
So try care. X
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I don’t necessarily agree. I took antidepressants for nearly two years. I reduced it to 15 mg which apparently is more a sedative amount with no bad side effects. It’s now two years 8 months from darling husband’s death and I now take nothing with no ill effects so they did work for me even if they don’t work for everyone.
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What works for one doesn’t work for all. I believe there is advice not to give anti depressants in the first 2 months of grief. Probably read that somewhere but certainly no expert. I would say do what feels right for you. I can’t decide whether that is a route I wish to pursue. Xx.
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My doctor prescribed me a mild antidepressant after 5 months of losing my husband as suffering with so much trauma.
I really didn’t want to go on antidepressants as I was worried that it would suppress my grief and I would be happy and forget my lovely husband. It hasn’t though as everyday I think of my husband and have a cry. I think it has taken the awful edge away as I really didn’t want to be here with the guilt that I didn’t notice that my husband was ill and had lost weight. God I miss him so much!
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Dear Courtshaun,
I am sad to hear of your loss.
I understand through experience every pain that you are experiencing, I lost my soulmate on the thirteenth of July. I was in mental and physical distress, the pains in my stomach and my heart were crippling me. The doctor prescribed Valium for me, I know that there are many different opinions on the use of drugs and in the end it is your decision, I found that they took away many of the physical pains at least. Yesterday I went to the chemist to pick up my monthly supply of meds for diabetes, it was the first time that I collected just the one prescription, I always collected my partners MS meds at the same time. I then sat in my car sobbing like a baby for a good fifteen minutes before I was able to slowly drive home to my empty house. The meds certainly do not stop the mental side of my grieving process.
Sending love and hugs, look after yourself
Kind Regards
Jim
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I hope you are feeling a bit better. I talk all the time to my wife and have loads of photos, i think its a help but its still the hardest thing ive ever had to suffer.
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I’m in this position too. It’s so scary. My body doesn’t want to do anything.
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Iam also exactly where you are too.
Out of interest what is your business?