I know what you mean , i went every were with him now i dont go anywere.
I am so lost now, i know i need to try things on my own but i am afraid i think .
I dont know of any groups were i am either ,
I dont k iw anyone in my area either that is going through the same .
I miss him so much x
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Me and my partner had separate bedrooms because of my disability when she passed away nearly nine weeks ago her twin daughters from her first marriage both turned against me saying it was my fault she died then wouldnāt accept it was her COPD that killed her and the day after she passed away they came to see me and demanded all of my partnerās belongings I told them to get out of the house for three weeks after her passing they bombarded me with texts saying they want her belongings even at the funeral they caused a lot of problems they will not accept that Iām not ready to sort Annās possessions out yet and since she passed away Iāve not even been into her bedroom even my fur baby will not go in there Ann knew when she went into hospital that she was not coming home and she made me promise that when Iām ready to go through her things will I give them to an animal charity shop thatās her last wish but her daughterās are trying to go against her wishes and have even threatened legal action against me Iām struggling with being home without Ann and Iām suffering from anxiety and loneliness and having no friends or family to help me with this is making me feel like joining Ann just to get away from her daughterās the only thing thatās stopping me is our fur baby Ann would never forgive me for leaving her
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Familyās can cause so much trouble, do they think there is something of value in her belongings. Donāt let them in no matter how much they say, you need time to grieve, itās been just over a year since my husband passed and Iām not ready yet to rid rid of his belongings.
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Mary.mac
Yes thatās what they keep asking about Ann had a lot of expensive stuff and like I said she asked me to donate Iām just going to ignore them thereās no mention of her daughter in her will Iām going to be like you itāll be over a year before I can bring myself to go through Annās belongings thanks for your reply take care
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Hi @Danielle2
I am the same as you its been 14months, myself and another friend who was widowed 6 days after me are struggling at the moment. I have this mask that i put on for everyone around me, so most think im doing okay. Im far from okay. I hate this life without my soulmate. Ive tried doing things to move forward but its like 2 tiny steps forward then 10 massive steps back! I feel so alone.
Sending hugs
Sam xx
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Totally identify with that! 2 tiny steps forward 100 massive steps back - life without my angel is so lonely and miserable 
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Boo2 , lost my wife unexpectedly 4 weeks ago today, and if it wasnāt for our 5 house cats and dog I would have nothing. Her sisters are trying to cause trouble because myself and my stepdaughter followed Cathās wishes for a pure cremation. If only they had been in touch with her and caring whilst she was here, this is hard enough without outside forces. This loneliness is insane, I work 11 hours a day and any other time was with my wifeā¦ lost now
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Hi Danielle,
I lost my darling husband on 5 April 2023 - so nearly 9 months for me. I feel exactly the same. I used to be such a busy person - never stopping for a minute. I now cannot motivate myself to do anything. See no point and have lost my purpose in life. Iām told it is a natural reaction to such a great loss. You are really not alone.
Sending love. xxx
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Families can be very selfish my partner died suddenly in May we had been together for 38 years,thank goodness he left a will his son had fallen out with us 18 months previously never contacted me before the funeral I had to arrange everything myself.When he found out there was nothing in the Will for him hetried to contest it but was told by the solicitor he had no chance.He had been given money a few years earlier and told that was what he was getting this was done to avoid problems for me but sadly he still tried to get everything.
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LyndaK
It only takes someone to pass away and it brings out the worst in people my partnerās twin daughters from her first marriage are threatening to take me to court because I wonāt let them have my partnerās belongings Annās Will doesnāt mention her daughterās she asked me to donate all her belongings to charity but they are trying to go against their mumās wishes
Take care and I hope you are ok
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This is just so lonely and horrible, yet no groupās locally to meet and exchange experiences? Iām in Shropshire with loads of friends doing, anything I can do ect, being really good until I mention Cath, then side swipe, then the youāll be feeling better soon! The only people that will understand are those that have experienced / suffered this, yet more likely to find a train spotting group!! 
x
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Feeling so lost today 15 weeks since I lost Steve. Seen no.one today except a social worker. Counting time until I can go to bed and try to get some sleep and forget for a few hours what a sh**storm my life now is.
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@MemberD72
I donāt know how many times in the past 8 months I was losing the will to live and saying to myself āwhatās the point of all this?ā This lonely life without my angel is so sad and empty! I think what has saved me so far when I was at my lowest is holding on to my memories of what we had together for 37 happy years. These beautiful memories will forever be in my heart till the day I join him 
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Hi there
So sorry to hear how you feel. Know what you mean but today I made the scary thing and joined a choir, I just cant stand being in the house all day, as being retired. They were very welcoming and I was so glad I made the effort, it took me ages to get out the door and go as the anxiety was terrible but after taking that step I was proud of myself. Its so very hard when you see couples together and I know I have to get used to it, my husband passed two months ago after cancer. Hate the empty house and hope that you can start and feel a little brighter soon, just take it hour by hour as somedays thats all I can do. Sending love and hugs xx
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@jantee
Hiya im sorry for the loss of your husband. Well done joining the choir thats a massive step to take. I make plans and then back out at the last minute, ive lost a lot of people who i thought were friends untill this happened.
The house is just a house now it doesnt feel like home anymore because it was our home together. Gosh yes i get so jealous seeing couples i find i get angry at nothing nowadays too, and my anxiety is awful
Sending love and hugs to you too xx
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Hi Danielle2 and Member D72
I feel exactly the same as you
Lost my Paul 24th July 2022
Year 1 hard looking back think I was numb
I donāt know
Year 2 absolutely horrendous
Yes the mask same here although Iām having bereavement counselling since October 3 2022 and counsellor Claire right at the beginning said donāt say your ok when your not
So I say itās hard or Iām struggling
Iām lost
Totally
No children ā¦ā¦ yes Paul had a twin and his family have been amazing unfortunately mine havenāt
I keep saying to Paul Iām trying but honestly what is the point
My ālife ā has gone Iām as you say going through the motions
No one knows whatās happening behind closed doors
Does anyway care?
Life goes on for folk
Ours has been shattered squashed taken away
Hugs to all
Xx
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Hello. My husband died 25 August 2022 after cancer diagnosis 12 weeks earlier. Like you I donāt remember clearly a lot of the first 12 months. The second year has been very hard so far Amwaiting to hear if I qualify for counselling with cruse. Just going from day to day trying to keep to a routine. No children one brother and a few good friends. Take care x
Hi Pakapa
Thank you for replying all I can saw itās bloody hard isnāt it
Paul was formally diagnosed with lung cancer ( stopped smoking 1994) 11/1/22
Had immunotherapy he was a farmer and worked right through it
Was told in June it hadnāt worked
Had one dose of chemotherapy
He worked up to 5 weeks before he passed away
I just cannot grasp I wonāt see him speak to him ring him and vice versa wash his clothes go out in the car hold hands
The list is endless
My heart like every one in here is totally broken
Iāve sat and cried ( howled!) this morning
How do we get into this situation
Paul was 68
We had plans
Someone thought otherwise
Iām just bereft and lost
Iāve no identity it passed away with Paul
I hope you get counselling soon I donāt know where Iād be without mine
You have waited far too long
Take care
Xx
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Than you for replying. My husband was 66 when he passed away. I cry most days and if I did not have our elderly labrador and cat would not get out of bed most days. Days are either long and lonely. Or if I manage to go out to see a friend I dread coming home as he is gone. Hope that when spring arrives things may be easier and feel less alone and scared. Take care xx
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