Just do what you feel you can 
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Yea I think people donāt understand and know what to say
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hi boo2 i am exactly the same as you, my husband died 3 weeks ago i have no friends or family so i have to do everything myself i have 2 dogs which i dont know what i would do without them if i cry they come and give me a cuddle in their own way, they are all the friends i have well they are my furbabies, Gary worshipped them, i have mobility problems as well so i know how you must feel,i freel very alone if i see something i think ill tell Gary about that when he comes in, but i forget that he will never come in, i would love to be your friend if you would like that as well take care Diane xxx
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My wife and I moved to Scotland two weeks before Christmas to a new house, on a new estate thatās still being built. My wife also had mobility problems, but that wasnāt a problem for us, when you truly love someone thatās all that matters. We donāt know anyone up here either. Sadly my wife passed away on the 9th January and now our new house is no longer a home. All the dreams we had, plans made etc; all gone with Linda. So I can relate to you and offer you my sympathy and hope youāre strong enough to handle all the pain weāre suffering.
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You did really well just to go - I canāt imagine how hard that must have been !
Well done
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My beautiful wife Elissa passed away 14/11/23 after a 4-5 year fight and she was just so very poorly. Her funeral was 11/12/23 ! Her rings were removed at the hospital and are in my safe ! My ring is on my finger where I belongs, where else would it be ??
She is all around me, I feel her with me, as she was before the Parkinsonās / MSA took her from me.
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Hiya just take one day at a time, some days are ok other not so good, we are only human, sending love and hugs to you xx
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Hello, I could have written this post myself. Iām so sorry for your loss. Mark died 24th September and it really feels like groundhog day. I go through all the motions that I need to do for daily life but Iām so relieved to get back to my bed at night. Nothing is happy, itās just getting it done. My work are looking for me back too but at this point I feel Iām doing well to be doing this much. Iām a nurse and Iām terrified at the idea of going back and looking after others again, so many triggers.
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Hi
So sorry in my case the pain is still very very raw Paul died 24 July 2022 and like you I do what I āhave ā to do
Sheer hell
We all have to do whatever is right for us and helps in any wayā¦ā¦ā¦
Take care
Xx
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My wife and I purchased our bungalow from the family after my stepdad passed away in February 21 ! The day before we moved in her diagnosis was changed from Parkinsonās to MSA (Parkinsonās type) which is terminal.
We had the house adapted for her and the bathroom was completely gutted to make a wetroom, her mobility and general health declined but she loved her home.
I was dreading living here alone after she passed away but as it has happened I feel her all around me, can almost I hear her laughs and remember happier times with her.
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i am not a Widow
im a wife to husband with wings all i want for him in heaven is to know how much i miss him, the best decision ive ever made in my life was to marry him, even death cant stop me from lovin him
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Hi Dianedee. I never admit to being a widow either. As far as I am concerned, I got married āfor better or worseā. Well, it canāt get any worse than this, can it?
I will always be married to my wonderful husband, no matter what. He was the best thing that ever happened to me, and Iām sure you feel the same.
We have to carry on somehow. It doesnāt matter whether our close family is sympathetic or not, kind or unkind, we still have to cope. I am lucky in that I have a fantastic family, but although that is comforting, wonderful, etc., the fact remains, HE isnāt here and without him, no matter how much my family cares and tries to compensate, I am alone.
Ungrateful? Maybe, but I miss him so much and without him, the sun never shines and the sky is never blue.
He was the light and the joy in my life and as an added bonus, he was very good-looking too!
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Hi AnnR and Diane Dee
I wholeheartedly agree with both of you 100% not not 100 a 1000%
Also Cat-fan
We moved 10 days before Paul passed away
He knew Iād be āsettledā here if all went wrong
We moved 14 th Paul lived to see us move he died 24th
I too feel Paul here he lived to see me here I can be ābusyā here
I know / feel heās here I talk to him constantly
Lifeās a bitch tho
Take care
Xx
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I hate the word widow / widower and have only used that on legal / financial documents.
My wedding ring is still on my finger where it belongs and her photos are all over so I can still see and talk to her.
There is no right / wrong or good/ bad way to lose someone you love. Whether you are given 6 years or 6 weeks to prepare yourselves it is not a good thing! I watched my beautiful Elissa slip away from me day by day over 5 years and palliative care for the last 30 months! I loved her with all my heart and always will, until the end of time
The last three months were very difficult for her and all of us as her health suddenly deteriorated before suffering respiratory failure. She had a very detailed RESPECT form and āAdvanced Care Planā with LPOA in place too which was followed as she was unable to speak for the last few days
I cannot fault the support provided by Sue Ryder & MacMillan throughout the last 30 months of her life.
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You made me smile! A lovely 80 year old lady recently was offering her condolences to me. It was no different to all the other lovely people who have said the same things until she said āand you fancied him so muchā 
. That was the first time I really smiled in months and I said you know you are absolutely right. I fancied him the minute I saw him 21 years ago and I never stopped 
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Aw thatās lovely
Yes I always fancied Paul like you the minute I saw him
True love
Xx
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It sure was 
. I try to think of that first day when Iām trying to fall asleep and it always helps.
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Dear @dianedee
I could have written exactly those words.
Our vows till death to us partā¦ Meant till both of us dieā¦ And then we will be reunited again
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Yes I can remember things really vividly
Sometimes thatās good unfortunately it also works the other way too
Ie appointments illness you know that kind of āstuffā
Paul will always be with me
The Macmillian nurse said we were two peas in a podā¦ā¦ā¦.
My friend said salt and pepper
Sheer heartbreaking
Xx
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