Hi i have anxiety do not like going out as so worried i will see couples every where and can not cope with it the last time i tried to go into town my heart started to beat really fast and i felt so sick never used to feel this way its only since i lost my husband i have started to feel this way i miss him so much we did everything together and now i feel so lost
I can understand how you feel. The last time I left my house was the 30th of October last year. I WFH and have all my shopping delivered. I know I need to make an effort, but I can’t even put my bins out! My brother does it for me… 
x
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I just miss my husband so much its not the same without him i cared for him for a year and a half as he had colon and liver cancer we knew after about a year the chemo was not working and was told he only had 6 months which was so hard to hear even though we knew my husband would still going shopping with me and still laugh and joke around with everyone
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I’m so sorry… I lost my Martin in August, just collapsed in from of me; it was a brain bleed. Martin was only 47 and I feel so robbed of everything. It’s just so difficult…. Sending a hug x:broken_heart:
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So sorry to hear what happened that must have been so hard for you he was so young to my husband was 60 sending a hug back to you
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Sending you both love, its so hard to keep going when you lose a loved one. I have good days & bad days x
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Yes it is so hard when you did everything together just feel so alone now x
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Hi Jan Snow put paid to a walk … wasted day really. Hope u had a good day x
Yes Ive had snow here too so I was stuck indoors with my granddaughter but we played and watched a film.
I hope you have a better day tomorrow, lets hope the snow disappears! x
Hi Jan , how are you ? I can’t believe I,m saying this but after 9 months of complete agony I am feeling like myself again ! It’s only been 2 weeks and how it happened I just don’t know ! I have seen my granddaughter and at first I was going through the motions as I have been doing and it seems forever. But now I feel like a weight has been lifted and the old Liz is back ! Don’t know how it happened but now things are finally dropping into place. Only thing is I got both grandchildren needing my attention ! But it is great ! Feel like a huge weight been lifted ! Never ever thought I would feel like this ! My son’s wedding is 3 weeks away and I don’t seem to have enough time to prepare ! I had my first grief counselling yesterday which was ok - quite a bit of paperwork obviously but I have 6 sessions and know it won’t be an easy journey for me . The disconnection I have felt has been horrendous as you know but I can see a light at the end of the tunnel finally. How are you doing ? xx
I am so pleased that you have finally turned a corner and are feeling like yourself again! It must be a wonderful feeling after months of misery, well done you for persevering. Grandchildren are a gift and you can now fully enjoy them and just in time for your sons wedding too.
Keep going with the counselling sessions, it will be worth it in the long term.
Im ok, I think the medication has finally kicked in and Im less anxious than I was. I too have had a review for counselling and Im just waiting to hear if they will give me some sessions. My friend has invited me to join her at her caravan in Wales this weekend and Im nervous about going but its a step in the right direction getting out and about again x
That,s great ! Go and have a good time ! Yes am going to stick with the counselling and I know it will probably unearth difficult stuff to talk about but hopefully give me some closure. Looks like we are both turning a corner ! I hope you get the counselling too it’s about time we started feeling like ourselves again.
Kee in touch and let me know how things are going
Liz xx
Thank you, I will definitely keep in touch…we deserve some happiness x
Sending you lots of love xx
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Hi ! Just thought I would give you an update. Well last Sunday (Easter) my son finally got married after 3 long years of waiting due to the pandemic. What a fantastic day it was ! As you know I was dreading it as I didn’t know what kind of reaction I was going to get from my family. All went very well and my family and I had a brilliant day . The venue was excellent , it was Hotel Van Dyk in Chesterfield . My grandchildren looked so beautiful in their outfits as did Mummy and Daddy too. I saw my extended family. My X husband ,his. .sister and their families were there too. It was a truly wonderful day. The only thing that went wrong was my phone ,s video recording of their wedding dance … James Morrison,s won’t let you go ( a favourite of mine ). But hopefully someone else will forward it on to me.
How are you doing ?
Wow it all sounds wonderful! I’m really pleased that you had a fabulous day and enjoyed it so much after all the worrying. You sound so happy at last and you seem to have a lovely family around you. Well done, you deserve it!
Im doing ok at the moment, life is starting to get easier and Im looking forward to the summer. Lets hope we both continue to find hapiness x
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Hello, how are you ?
I seem to have landed myself a Nanny duty job on Wednesdays ! My daughter in law has returned to work 3 days per week after maternity leave, so between Danielle’s Mum my ex husband and myself Lottie is being well spoilt ! Last week was half term so Jacob was here too and I had the job of taking him to footy training at my old school . Life is quite busy at the moment and by the end of the week I am pleasantly tired out ! Am struggling to find time for myself sometimes but it is great to be able to do what I,m doing for my family 
Hi its good to hear from you. You are a busy lady and by the sounds of it loving every minute too! Im so pleased that you’ve found a way live your life again.
Im also feeling so much better these days, the summer seems to lift everyones spirits and Im back going out with friends and family having fun x
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That’s great news ! Yes life is getting better for both of us at last ! Do stay in touch Liz xx
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I have literally just signed up to this. I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to do, I lost my grandfather Sunday night and I can’t get my head round it. I know I need support from people outside my own network. Not sure how this works either. Sending lots of love
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