@SueF1
It’s very true that time does heal although when I first lost my wife I thought I would always feel so low. Like you my third year is fast approaching. It took me nearer 9 months to finally accept my new life. I don’t cry now either like I used to. At first I felt guilty for not crying but something just clicked and I seemed to accept things better. We all talk about my wife, their mum/nana, friend now without getting upset, there are a couple of triggers that would set me off but in the main I’m in a better place. I still miss her, every day I think about her but now I think about the good times we had.
Christmas is fast approaching and we will all have a lovely time I’m sure, grandchildren are getting so excited. I would just say, take things slowly you will know when you are ready. Merry Christmas everyone…
@Leicester_guy exactly, i dont get the yrs of greiving that some people seem to do, no sense to it. you cant change anything that happened, its over, you have to move on. like you we talk about dave, moan about him, stil, nthink about him all the time. like yestersay, we have a fox thats got pretty tame and comes iun everyday at 3.30 for her dinner, and we said dave would have loved to see her.i dont do families at xmas but me and son will be fine. happy xmas to you
I’m spending Christmas alone this year, my children made me visit them and my grandchildren last year but they all live in different parts of the country. I’ve decided to stay home with my little westie this year as I’ve got no strength to drive 3 hours to visit them. Im on chemotherapy mysrlf, and it’s weekly so i have little motivation or interest in trying to be jolly.
Well my cat died three weeks ago. She was my only company. I wasnt coping very well with caring for her because she was obviously declining and had some disabilities. I had a lot of of her mess to clear up. I knew if was coming but feel guilty I couldn’t neet her needs very well.
Just like I did with my husband.
Grateful in a way I had two years of her company.
Cat rescue centre’s are absolutely full so you need to go and adopt a little fur baby the only thing that keeps me going is my fur baby Rosie she’s the only company I have
Its sad when we loose a pet., dont rush into getting a new one, take your time and make sure its what you want. I have a little dog but I know if anything happened to him, I wouldn’t replace him as if I want to do anything last minute its difficult arranging someone to care for him.
Yes it is a bit like losing my husband. I couldnt just replace her. I have lost other cats and always waited. Sometimes it has been a stray adopted me either abandoned or a lost old cat I felt sorry for.
My son’s dog is a handful and i couldn’t cope with it and got pulled over luckily on the grass. I would like to borrow a softy dog whom is no trouble…