Hi rob7.i,m so sorry for your loss.
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Jane64.i feel the same way and I keep thinking i let my gorgeous beautiful late wife sue down and I wish I would have walked away from the bike club i was president of at the time but I know that sue didn’t want me to because sue said you need people around you but in July last year i walked away after the way sues memory was dishonoured by so called friends.but i know sue is here in my heart and thoughts forever.she would be saying you soppy old sod but stop thinking you failed because you never let me down x
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Thank you, I feel for you as well and everyone who is going through the toughest thing we will ever experience.
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I totally understand.
8 months now and in a very bad place.
Bereavement and grief are very, very difficult anyway but I have had some dreadful experiences lately, one still ongoing.
These definitely have not helped.
It’s not just the problems and experiences in themselves but also trying to deal with them on my own. I felt, still feel, so alone and isolated.
Sending hugs xx
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I completely feel for you and hope your pain and suffering will subside quickly. We are all in together, but feels good to communicate about it with others. We need to stick together and try and get ourselves to a happier place. Hugs to you, and lots of love as well.
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Thank you, that is so very kind x
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It has been a month for me, I thought that i was coping but 2 days ago i just crumbled, cried all day on and off, the loss and just missing her crushed me, I am back at work today but it all just feels pointless, whats the point in earning if you cant use it for the one you love, i am hoping the pain eases.
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I am with you on that, i remember all the stupid things we argued about and wonder why i was such an idiot
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Sending a big hug x
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Atrum … I’m at the 6wk loss of my husband, going through exactly the same as you today. What is the point of anything!!! Nothing matters because he’s not here. I’ve coped reasonably well over the last week but today I feel panicky, scared of the future, going through the motions in the present and longing for the past. Dreading the Christmas period, want to bury my head in the sand till January. Hope that tomorrow is easier for all of us. Sending love and support to everyone in the group chat
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Sending a big hug xx
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@RoseGarden
Please don’t feel alone and isolated. Keep talking on here. We all know how you are feeling because we are going through the same thing. I have only been on here for 2 days and i can already feel love and support. I find this very comforting. Just remember you are never alone. I hope your feelings will get better as i hope mine do through time. Hugs right back atcha xx
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Thank you so much.
That is very kind xx
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Sending hugs
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Thank you everyone, lets all stay strong, tomorrow’s another day x
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rob7 I feel for you it’s been just over 12 months since I lost my wife and best friend very suddenly. We did everything together so losing her was like losing myself.
I have gone through similar emotions to you everything from seeing light at the end of the tunnel only for it to go out and put me right back to when it happened.
I’m at the stage now where I can talk about my wife without tearing up and sounding like a little girl (no offence to girls/ladies) I was brought up where men did not show emotions I now know how ridiculous that is and letting out your emotions is part of the healing process
It still hurts and I think my life will never be the same again but I have learned to adjust to life without my best friend and sole-mate and get on with life but it does get easier as time passes
I think for me having gone through all the firsts including the first week then first month, anniversary’s birthdays Christmas and the first year anniversary all of which had me shedding bucket loads of tears.
This something none of us in the awful club we find ourselves want to join but sadly find ourselves with no choice. Until I lost my wife I had no idea just how painful and difficult losing a wife/Partner was. But it does get better because we learn to live with it I will never forget the love we had for each other and I wouldn’t want to because it’s all a big part of me
I still have triggers which hit me but not as hard as in the early days I hope this helps you to and anyone else going through this terrible journey
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Thank you so much for responding and helping me with all your kind and meaningful words. Can’t express enough how much I appreciate it. What’s amazing is that I sounded like I wrote it as we are so similar in our feelings. At least I know that the pain of it all will subside and I will be able to move forward. I understand that life without my best friend and love of my life will never be the same, but is something we must accept.
Lots of love to you and everyone else that has taken time to help me through this ever so difficult time.
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@Katy7 Hope you have had a better day today. Thinking of you and all of us in this horrific situation. x
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Thank you, you as well!
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Its coming up to 2 years in February 1st next year.i done feel like I can’t move on. All I want is my beautiful gorgeous beautiful late wife sue back and I don’t feel like I can accept that sue will never becoming back.sorry for the semi rant
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