@Bess1 it is so hard that our mum’s don’t want to talk about our husbands. My mum adore my husband so don’t understand why she never wants to speak about him or asked how my son is her grandson. I will keep talking about my husband to keep his memory alive. It wasn’t his fault that he was taken so early. Big hugs xx
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Thats good. Main thing is we get some support from somewhere 
cos we sure need some don’t we ? I just dont understand my kids and i get so frustrated with them 
its almost like they taking it out on me that their dad has gone … not caring for one minute what its like for me when i was the person who lived with him and looked after him 
i was his flipping wife ! Ha i wonder how they would cope if something happened to their partner? They would be in pieces like i am - its just awful and i let them all spend time with their dad when he was poorly 
didn’t put any restrictions on them and then they treat me like this 
dont get it ! Theyre just.really disrespectful i think ! 
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@Deb5 such a shame that your family are like that… this should definitely bring you closer together being their dad. Your husband would be so upset with them treating their mum like this. You didn’t like me ask for this awful life Xx
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Yes he would and ive told them that … but they just ignore me … theyre all so full.of themselves … impossible to get through really … dunno what i can do apart from just hold on to those who do look after me !! Its tough enough isnt it without people being difficult … think its best i stay away from them tbh - they only upset me more ! It was always just me and my husband really … they been very silly kids for a long time ! Honestly you couldnt make it up could you … life ! xx
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@Deb5 I just read on here how a chap just lost his wife and felt awful that he wasn’t there for his mother when she lost her husband his father and didn’t notice the pain she was in. Thought of you as I know it hurts when your family does not support you in the way that you would support them. Hope you have friends to support you and you are not alone in your journey xx
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Hi hazel yeh well i hope it pricks their conscience one day ! But luckily i got my mum … dunno why they being like this but i always been there for them so it is hurtful i got some nice people who live near me who are looking after me too xx
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Hi
Good friends are priceless
You certainly find out who they are
Xx
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Loobyloo I also know two other women who lost their husbands. My sister and my best friend. I saw their grief. I listened. I felt for them, but I realise only now, that I had no idea how bad they felt. You can’t imagine it. It has to happen to you. Probably not what you want to hear, but after roughly 6 - 8 years, both have a “man friend”, for the company mainly. Not that they’d consider marrying or even living together, at least not at this moment. I can’t imagine wanting another man in any way, but their stories do make me see that there can be friendships in the future. In time something will have to fill the vacuum our partner has left, and it will get us through. I have to say, neither of these women feel like they’ve got over their loss, or ever will, but it gives me hope that one day, albeit probably after some years, not months, I will again be able to function and have something approaching a “life”. Right now I’ll have to settle for pain and suffering.
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It was regarding what your neighbour said about her and her husband being ships in the night btw … x