I have to decide on the exit music for my partner’s funeral today. A the songs I pick are sad but I’m told it should lift the atmosphere a bit. Anything lighter seems too cheerful for what is, to me, the saddest day. I like Songbird but also there is an instrunemtal tune I loke but then people say the words are important! I’ve been worrying all week. What do you all think. It’s for leaving the service.
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Hi @Genie1 , its entirely your own choice, it doesn’t have to conform, you go for what you like and want.
For my wife I chose tracks by 3 bands/artists that she loved, quite difficult as she loved music but there were certain ones played at home more than others so managed to wittle it down, it’s what is right for you and your partner - no one else.
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Hi @Genie1
It’s totally down to you. Its your farewell.
I had all sad songs but I know people who had uplifting songs. Its just personal choice.
Just choose what you want, whatever seems right for you.
Love and hugs
X x
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Thanks. For some reason this has become such a problem to me. I chose the first music easily but just can’t decide on the exit music.
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Thats the one I struggled with.
I settled on ‘I Will Always Love You’ Whitney Houston
Take care
X x⁰
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I was lucky that my husband had already told me the music he wanted at his funeral. Brothers in arms at entry and albatross at the end. Also a hymn people could sing along with. My brother wrote a poem which he read. He is a published poet. My brother in law gave the eulogy. He loved jaguar cars so it was fitting that the hearse was a jaguar.
I cried the entire time with my lovely niece moving to hold my hand throughout.
It was so beautiful I have specified that I want albatross at my funeral.
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That sounds lovely. My partners illness was just a few weeks and we didn’t expect him to die so soon. We hadn’t discussed any arrangements. No one in ghe family or friends wants to speak at ghe funeral and I would ot be able to. I’d lkke a poem but no one wants to read it. The celebrant will read the eulogy.
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Hi Genie1,
I chose the song “Time To Say Goodbye” for my brother’s funeral but it was hard to listen to. - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9N8MpjTm534
Nick
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For daves we had pink floyd wish you were here as he came in , always look on the bright side of life and foy vance guiding light as he left, we found funeral directors who have a room at the wake for the coffin to be in so people could go and see him when they wanted in private…their venue wasnt big enough but our local pub did so we did it there, and we had all his favourite music artists playing during the wake, instead of the usual flowers everyone bought one flower that they put on the coffin
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My partner died within 2 weeks of his diagnosis. As soon as we were told it was terminal difficult as it was we discussed funeral before the morphine took over. But he had always said he wanted albatross at his funeral. Also told me he wanted the wake at the Masonic hall and what charities for donations. He wanted his bowls donated to his bowls club and his Masonic regalia back to his Masonic lodge. The poem was my brothers idea. It was actually the one he had written for himself. His wife has terminal cancer and he has a beautiful one for when her time comes.
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My partner didn’t want to know the prognosis. I was told it would be before Christmas but I thought we’d have longer and that he would gradually realise that he was dying. It took seven weeks from diagnosis. He hadn’t started his treatment and still thought it would give hime years.
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Nick22 My first choice is sad and someone said it will make people cry more. So I don’t know.
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If that’s your choice then go for it
X x
@Liro I had that same song but in the middle of the service We only had three pieces of music, his coffin came in to the Z Cars theme tune, he was an Everton supporter it it seemed appropriate, I will always love you midway and then the leaving song was Sweet Caroline, I felt it was uplifting and once again associated with sport, particularly Cricket which he loved. His funeral was themed with blue and white because I wanted it to be a reflection of his life and not his death.
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Ignore what anyone else says or thinks. It’s none of their business.
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That sounds lovely.
I had Leann Rimes 'Please Remember ’ for the photo tribute.
Its been a favourite of mine since I heard it on ‘Coyote Ugly’
Now I can’t listen to it without floods of tears
X x
I totally agree x x
Hi Genie1, it’s overwhelming isn’t it x
Now you’ve done research and got others views, sit and just be alone in your thoughts about it, ask your loved one what they think. Your answer will come and then don’t 2nd guess yourself. Be still and go with YOUR thought, this is about you, your loved one and love 
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I had Songbird in the middle then Over the rainbow for the exit song.I just chose what I wanted we didn’t have any close relatives.
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You need to choose something special to you both, whatever other people say. I had Barber’s Adagio for Strings coming in, and Pink Floyd’s Shine On You Crazy Diamond for the exit, as that was ‘our’ song. Needless to say, I can’t listen to either of them now; that’s something else to bear in mind, that hearing the music in the future will just have you in floods of tears.
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