I hope so 
xx
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I do believe they walk beside us. It’s just, I’d rather have him in person than in spirit.
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Me too i cant and do t want to think he isnt with me all the time. Xxx
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I don’t know what’s happened to me today, but it’s been the worst day since Bill left me. Maybe it’s because it’s exactly 7 weeks today since he passed away but I’ve just had total meltdown. Sat and sobbed - just couldn’t stop.
I’m just wandering round like a zombie. The sun is shining and I hate it - does that sound ridiculous.
I’ve got things to do but somehow, today, everything I touch, everything I look at, brings him back more than ever, or it hits home more than ever that he’s not here and is not going to be - EVER 
More tears 
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Nothing sounds ridiculous when your are grieving my love
Your still extremely raw, your still processing. It’s 6 months for me tomorrow, like half a year without him, and I have only just began to realise properly that he is never coming home. It will hit you over and over, cry, scream, talk, let it out, I’ve realised the only way through grief is to go through it. There is no way around it. 7 weeks is no time at all. Your very early days on this path we are all on. Go easy on yourself, have a hot bubble bath if you are able, some self care.
Huge hugs for you, your communicating your feelings to us in here, that’s a brave move for a start. Keep going.
Love Jen xx
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Jo I am so so sorry to read you are here for the second time.
And Harriet all your pain today.
Know there are people out here who are in the same place as you. On the same rollercoaster of grief. Who care. Who really care even about a stranger who they only know on the internet.
I found the best way for me is to embrace the grief. Full on. Let it all out.
Kt xxx
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I’m so sorry to hear it’s such a bad day. I’m only 4 weeks and 2 days in so feel like that all the time. Friends say just go with it but I really know what that means! There’s nothing I can do to stop the feelings. Be gently with yourself today xx
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Hiya Kit ty yes it so bloody hard i feel so sad lost and lonely. I have never felt such pain. It seems so much worst than the first time, but last time i had my mum and dad and my son was here. It all helped this time besides one neighbour no one bothers. I have only seen my so twice in 8 weeks. Ty for caring xxx
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To all,
I have dust been to our caravan well mine now.
I was crap all other people on site aid how sorry they were and asked was I ok now.
To their surprise is said no only 8 weeks since I list her and I will never feel ok.
I said in time, a very long time it may get easier but never ok.
I realise that they don’t realise and never will until if they are unlucky and don’t die first one of the will and I very much doubt they will be able to say they are on after 8 weeks or even 8 months possibly In 8 years the will possibly be able to say they have come to terms with their loss
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Well done for going Steve, you did better than I could do its also 8 weeks for me . No life will never be the same without my darling husband been in it I miss him every minute off every day. Hugs Jo xx
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Well done Steve 
Noone will ever know how it feels until they have walked in our shoes.
Love Jen x
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Exactly JD no one will ever truly understand I still have my parents in their 90s and they don’t really fully understand. Just as I never did and truly wish I didn’t, but unfortunately I know do fully understand and it’s a nightmare.
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I don’t think it really matters about age steve, my parents are late 60’s and they don’t understand, I’ve friends all different ages from 21 to 70’s and they don’t either. I’ve not met anyone face to face in our shoes. Just mind numbing insensitive morons who moan about their partners and say stupid things and hate on life and they think you should be over it and move on like turning the page of a book!!
It is a dreadful nightmare, I feel the pain love and hugs x
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I know I’ve posted on here before and keep telling myself I’m not going to do it anymore - telling myself I have to be strong and get on with things. Trouble is, I wake up in a morning and I’m just a mess. It’s just over 7 weeks since my Bill passed away and every morning seems to get worse. Some nights I can’t even go to bed because I can’t bear being in the bed without him. I sleep on the couch downstairs the wake up in floods of tears. I really can’t bear the thought of being here for however many more years without him. I just feel I can’t cope any more. I knew it would be hard but never dreamed it would be so unbelievably heartbreaking
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Morning Harriet i lost my husband 9 weeks tomorrow. I am so bereft it takes my breath away. I also sleep on the sofa. And every day brings more tears. Memories are nice but so painful. Dont beat yourself up its normal so i have read and been told. Hold on in the one minute 1 hour 1 day is what i am doing. Sending you hugs Jo xxx
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Thank you jevncute. I miss him so much, as no doubt you miss your loved one. It’s the silly little things like putting batteries in things for example. I can put batteries in but he’d always say “bring it here, I’ll do it for you”. When something didn’t work properly I knew I could turn to him for help. Now where do we go.
We weren’t great gardeners but loved pottering and he always potted up plants for me. Now every time I venture into the garden I end up in floods of tears - just can’t stop them. People tell me the sunshine makes you feel better. I feel worse because we should be sitting outside with a coffee, or in the summerhouse planning what we are going to do next. I can’t sit out there on my own and don’t think I ever will.
We only had almost 10 years of marriage. I guess I was being greedy - I wanted a few more 'cos I love him so much .
I know we’re all going through this, but everyone is different. I guess no-one knows exactly what each one of us is ferling.
Love and hugs to you
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No Harriet its not greedy at all we all wanted more, i had almost 19 years with Gra 16 married it will never be enough. Like you Gra did the practical things I cared for the home. And yes its so bloody scary facing it alone.
But I promised him I would try, yes the tears never stop the pain is horrendous but I have read on here thats because we loved and were loved so deeply.
I try and do something small each day I talkvto him all the time. I ask him why. But I knew why it wasn’t his choice. Ivwill forever miss and love him but In his name of love I will try and stand walk again hugs jo xxx
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So sorry for your loss. Life can be so cruel & we wonder why? Wishing you all the best.
You do, what i do, day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute. A tough world.
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I really dont know Scampi, i ask myself that question often. What did I ever do that was so bad that I have to hurt so much. Xxx