Ladysusie6 you have in no way upset me. I was really trying to suggest that it sounded to me like your husband died of something he had anyway, and I wouldn’t be thinking it had to do with Covid jabs. I may be wrong, but I think I’d prefer to believe that, which is why I was suggesting it. I don’t say you’re wrong, who knows. I just think it’s preferable to have the jabs if they can help avoid such a dreadful death like my husband’s, which for most people is the case. It’s just my opinion, but I’ll definitely have a read of your other posts on this subject. We none of us know yet. I hope you know, my intention was to say something that might help you.
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@Ladysuisei6 I blame the COVID jab for my husband death. 2 days after his jab he fainted and fell 3 meters at work and smashed his elbow to peices. 20 months later he died of kidney cancer which was in both kidneys. The injury from the fall masked his symptoms from the cancer which he never knew that he had. He was 53 years old. I feel if he never had the fall then he would of notice the pain. X
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I’m so sorry for your agony, I often think that Covid itself was what took my husband so suddenly. When he finally got seen in hospital (that’s another story) they were asking all sorts of questions about where he’d been, had he travelled. He’d just come back from 2 months in Spain, I’d been with him but not for the same time.
He’d been to the doctors because I nagged him as he wasn’t himself, they took bloods & he was severely anaemic so they said he may need a blood transfusion. He said he didn’t want to go to hospital (all this is unbeknown to me at the time) but it obviously wasn’t life threatening. He then became really poorly, I phoned the doctor they came out a few hours later as my husband literally couldn’t get to the doctors. They told me about the blood transfusion & phoned (a non emergency) ambulance. That came 6 hours later & a further 4 hours in A& E where he was literally in agony & I had to get someone who obviously realised he was in a bad way.
Basically his liver & kidneys failed in this time but what leads me to think of Covid was the symptoms of respiratory failure & the pain in his legs (I read up afterwards) he passed just before Christmas in 2019 before we the public were aware of it. I’m in my fourth year of my grief journey & the trauma of this is still so real, an absolutely horrendous failure of the people meant to look after us. He was 59.
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@AngelinaH ah that’s good - I hate if I thought I’d upset anyone really especially someone in this lovely group . Well , Baz died suddenly and unexpectedly meaning his death was referred to the coroner. Fortunately we were spared a full inquest . Nothing in his medical history would have pointed towards what happened. I do realise that going over things in my head won’t bring him back - but he was always so fit and healthy as far as we were aware. I’m in a complete mess really- not crying all the time as I was but I’ve sort of shut down. My family are being unsupportive which has really hurt me and is making my life more difficult than it needs to be . I’m not adjusting to living on my own and given this house is rented , I’m trying to find alternatives. I was hoping to stay with my son and his wife , but this isn’t possible, so I guess I’ll need to be strong and get on with it as best I can . Disappointed though.
You take care - I will read some of your posts later and then I’ll feel I know you better xxx
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@Jodel712 I’m so sorry to that you have lost your husband in such circumstances. So very sad. I lost my husband suddenly at Christmas. I went to work on the Saturday and Sunday my son rang me to say that his dad had collapsed. Time I got home he was gone. I did CPR. I never noticed that he was so ill as he mask his symptoms on the previous fall he had. I didn’t notice his weight loss and feel so guilty for not being able to save him as time I noticed and got him down the doctor’s it was too late. I miss him so much and feel so lonely without him. John was 53 and his life has been robbed and so has mine. My husband was diagnosed with anemia also. How terrible that your husband was let down by the hospital. Read a lot about this. Sending lots of love Xx
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@Hazel.1966 actually my beloved had a fall on the stairs a few weeks before he died and he was having some pain from this . By the time I persuaded him to see a doctor it’s now becoming obvious to me that was a red herring. He died in the doctors surgery from a cardiac arrest so like your husband, the pain was masking his lethal heath condition xxx💔
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Yes, I think not being there was harder. And I didn’t see his body for 2 weeks afterwards because of a post mortem. There’s no easy way to say goodbye
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You said you wished you had gone private but I doubt that it would have made any difference. The only advantage to going private is that you can often get treatment more quickly. However, the treatment is no better because you have gone private, just quicker, which in some cases can make a difference, of course. I am so sorry for your loss and know just how it feels.
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I am so sorry for your loss i lost my partner just over a year ago and i feel like that sometimes to that am letting him down but then I like to to think that hes proud of me for making it through that day xx
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Yes but if i had gone private and it was quicker he might still be here ! Time was very much of the essence and they messed about for over a month after his diagnosis ! The NHS have a lot to answer for !!! Theyre useless !!! So many mistakes made and misdiagnosis !! I first took him to hospital end of july and it took them all that time to diagnose him !!! 2 bloody months and then another 2 months to damn well tell him nothing they could do !!! Its crap !! And now i gotta go through sll this pain cos of them !!! I will never forgive the NHS ! And you know what irony is ! I used to damn well work in the stupid NHS !!!
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You know what we should rename it RHS standing for rubbish health service !!! I know there are still some good drs cos saw one myself other week but really … they just useless some hospitals are ! Far too slow and its costing lives !! Our precious husband’s lives 
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I’m so sorry the NHS let you down, have you complained to PALS? It was the only thing that I felt I could do for my husband & myself as the trauma & replaying it in my head was torture. I blamed myself for not being proactive enough, I don’t drive so couldn’t take him to hospital myself but then the Doctor said it wasn’t an emergency! Getting it down on paper did help, they admitted lessons needed to be learned & I didn’t take it any further. The system is failing from the GP’s to the hospitals. A lot of the blame would lay at his GP’s door but unfortunately the complaint doesn’t deal with that end of things & that’s the problem there’s no cohesion. I didn’t raise a separate complaint with the GP as a lot of the family are registered there & didn’t want repercussions.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this & sending you love & strength
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Oh yeh we did all that twice ! The hospital had to do an investigation ! Got some answers but still not impressed tbh ! I partly blamed myself yeh, because i couldnt save him but i also know the hospital did a lot wrong too ! The dont listen to family either - that’s part of problem too !,At end of day im not a doctor or a nurse am i so i cant do everything! Thats how u c it anyway ! Xx
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