I am new to this forum so please bear with me. I lost my son in law 6 months ago which left my daughter a young widow with two small children. I am helping her practically with dealing with her grief but don’t know how to deal with my own & the utter feeling of sadness I have that consumes me. I can’t deal with sympathy from others, I just really need to speak to someone who understands how I feel please
It hit my mam really hard she struggled seeing her daughter in so much pain, then her 3 grandkids 21,19, and 11 hurting I could see it in her. I have no idea how she’s dealing with it
Hello @Kellig - thank you for reaching out. I’m so sorry for the loss of your son-in-law - that is devastating.
I wanted to share this thread that @Vanjaarsveld recently posted: coming to terms with losing someone dear You might want to connect with them, as they have also experienced the recent loss of their son-in-law and may understand some of what you are going through.
Take good care and I hope you find the community to be a support to you - you are not alone.
Thank you for the information
Hi, so sorry for your loss. My husband is 43 and we have two young kids (he has terminal cancer) so I’ll be a young widow too. Your daughter maybe interested in the group “widowed and young” if she’s not heard about it.
Now back to you; would you consider counselling atall? Do you have anyone YOU can offload to?
Hi, thanks for your message.
I am so sorry that you are facing a future without your husband but the memories you can still make must be so important to you.
Yes my daughter is part of WaY But she is yet to use the full benefits of the support.
I am waiting for counseling to start; I hope it will be available soon.
Sadly hes now too poorly so we can’t make too many memories but we definitely tried our best over the last year. I got him and the boys to a Wembley stadium tour, we had a couple of nights away as a family and the local football club have been brilliant (even gave us a box for free over the winter so my husband could still go). It’s out anniversary tomorrow so that’s going to be sad.
Anyway, I’m really glad you are on the list for counselling. Fingers crossed that comes up soon for you. Make sure you share any feelings you have on here in the meantime as so many can probably relate .
It was my daughters anniversary a couple of weeks ago, they would have been married 5 years. I went away with her & my grandchildren for the weekend to try & take our mind off it. It was hard but we enjoyed it through the children. I just feel so helpless as I can take things better & I think about the life they won’t all have together as a four rather than the life they do have as a three. It’s so hard. Then I feel guilty when I do things that make me happy
I would love to have someone like you in mine and my children’s life so please don’t feel guilty. What you are doing will be helping. Guilt is a huge part of grief anyone of us on here will tell you that x