I am new here & trying to figure out how to manage this whole grieving thing. I lost someone really close to me a few months ago & while some days feel okay-ish, there are moments that just hit me such as a truck. It can be a random song, a place or even just silence that brings everything back.
What really gets me is how unpredictable it all is. I will be doing alright & then I am in tears & can not explain why. Also i have check this I am feeling worse 5 months after my wife’s death.cspo course Does anyone else experience that? How do you deal when those waves of grief just come out of nowhere?
Also i have tried journaling & going for walks, which help a little but I want to hear how others here cope with those sudden emotional hits.
Thank you.
Hello Sofiaya
I am fairly new on this journey. My wife passed on 22 April. I find that I have odd random moments when things seem hopeless. Like you, I journal and walk with my dog and both help a bit. I keep thinking that there is some kind of emotional cliff edge out there somewhere. I would be interested to know more about your story, but only if you want to share
Hi Sofiaya, Sorry you are struggling. My Darling wife passed just over a year ago. I still miss her and will always love her. Grief comes in waves, can be triggered by anything. I saw this some time ago " Time does not heal a heartache or stop a silent tear or take away the memories of one we loved so dear." It is so true for me. I try and remember the happy times, like when she made me laugh or I made her smile. I keep these memories close and when the sadness hits I reach out for one of them. It does help me. I am just over a year on this hard journey and am starting to learn how to manage the grief a bit better.
Hi sofiaya
Sorry for your loss.
I recently lost my cousin 3 weeks tomorrow. The pain im feeling is like nothing ive ever felt before. Like you one minute iam okay then i think of my cousin and our lifes with out him in it and it makes me beak down in tears. This feeling is horrendous im nor sure if there will ever be a day when i dont wan to cry and run away from this pain
Hi, I have been talking about this with my grief counsellor today , and he said you’ve just got to ride with it really. With a significant loss you can’t control your emotions and nor should you try or you’re just storing it all up , which isn’t good for you . I get waves of complete wailing - it is wailing not just quiet tears , but when it’s over I do feel a sense of calm , until the next one of course . I just let it out.
