We all still thinking about are partners. It is hard, very hard. Yet we have to try. I have we all have probably been their asking to be with are loved one again. Something keeps me going, i like to think for me it’s Sue. I have not seen family or friends, it will be 6 months this weekend. This site has been a life line for me. So please try, and have something.
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Hi Johnr, are you ok ? You have not posted for a while. I am sorry if i have upset you, i was not getting at you. I was just saying something.
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I think with me anyway i am still in so much shock a d the trumma and i just cant accept what happened to my wife we did absolutely everything together i helped her with stuff to we where like glue stuck together all the time i never had thought this could happen we are both 50 and how this happened i cry constantly and everything i do and go reminds me of my wife i am so heartbroken sad everything she was my world
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I fully understand how you are feeling, Ray and I were married 52 years and I was devastated when he died even though I knew it was coming. I had a hysterical breakdown on Christmas Day, I cried everyday and night and then suddenly one morning I woke up and realised I hadn’t cried myself to sleep. I am 13 months down the road of this awful journey we are on and miss him dreadfully but I know I have to keep going. There is nothing wrong about crying everyday and like you I couldn’t eat but once I slowly started eating I began to feel better in myself, I lived on ready meals. I hope you manage to find peace.
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I am 18mths down the road and it is still really hard but like you i keep going what else can we do ?
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There is nothing else we can do, I chose not to concentrate on what I had lost but on the wonderful memories of time spend with a very special man who loved me unconditionally as I did him.
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Concentrate on the wonderful memories you had not the ones you cant make. I totally understsnd this x
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@Johnr i hope you are ok ?
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I just cant cope with anything not eating crying all the time even when i go out i cry as i just keep thinking about my wife it never stops i had so meny good memories and dreams i am just so sad all the time and even harder when you dont have the help or support i am alone i do have my counciling once aweek but havet had it for 2 weeks as its the holidays thats another thing i get upset about right now we would have been inour second week of holiday together i honestly just cant cope i am so frightened scared terrified off this life i would do anything to be with her
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I understand how you are feeling and my heart goes out to you, some people have said keeping a journal and writing your feelings down helps have you thought about that?
So sorry.
Thinking of you.
We all understand and are here for you.
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Hello everyone, another busy day for me today.
Sorry Love01. Have you managed to speak to your GP?
Hope they can help you.
I know its hard please try have good meal and drink plenty. Take care of your health.
I know this may seem a hard push but please try.
@John, hope you are okay. The group is missing you…
Bigs hugs to you all…
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That is exactly what i try to do @Rajay , I think of how lucky i was that such a special man came into my life, be it only for 3 years . I now know what it is like to be loved unconditionally !!!
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I have got a counciling session today and i just cant face anything to eat just toast and biscuits or some chocolate i am going to make an appointment for the doctors maybe next week as my meds will be finished then
Good, hopefully counselling goes well for you.
We are here for you.
Thank you so much but i am really struggling to cope i am missing my wife so much the pain i am feeling is like chopping of my rught arm we where allways together i lo ve her so much this is why i am struggling
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@RKeith are you back at work now
I dont think anything will help i am broken my wife was right a few months ago i looked like a lost soul she is right about that i am i just cant stand this life any more
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Good idea whatever food you feel you can eat.
Also good to visit your GP.
Thinking of you x
Love01
I feel the same as you 11 weeks feels like day 1 cry all day but i have a dog actually Simons dog who i promised i would look after and force myself to walk him and strangely strangers say morning and stop i i tell everyone my story while crying it helps me the odd one even have gone through it would you consider a dog for companion im alone but pushed myself out twice a day otherwise would just wallowing all day x
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