I was just going to ask that. 
Last time I ironed was a white shirt for Jackie’s funeral service in Wales. As it was one of those ‘drip dry’ things, if that’s what they call them these days, I wasn’t going to bother. My son made me.
Jackie had a gigantic ironing board, so I am going to have to buy a smaller one, when I move.
@Rob05
Ironing is something I put off for as long as possible…then when the cupboard starts overflowing I tackle it. It’s done now for another few months…
My John was a really good at ironing so sometimes I’d take my stuff over to his house n mix it in with his then do a runner back to mine…
@Johnr
Yes the AA meeting gave my lot a laugh as well. Even funnier when my friend Graham said ‘ok let’s go to the pub now then’ He got a few bad looks I can tell you…We didn’t go to the pub by the way we went back to his house n his wife Denise made us tea…!!!
I try to iron,but by the time i have folded it,it just looks as bad. Sue hated to iron,but was a lot better at it then me.
Estate agents gone and now have to decide on which.
Surprised our house is worth so much. Gives me a lot more wiggle room to buy one in Wales now.
Glad its gone well.
I hate letting one person down though.
Jackie always worked with estate agents in the past. She had no qualms in telling one to leg it. 
Today i went into town, i was sat outside mine & Peter,s favourite Coffee Shop, someone who he used to know stopped to say hello. He asked how i was, which i thought was nice. I replied i am just sat here with my coffee & wishing he was still here with me. His reply was Well i have to say you dont look like the grieving widow. I was shocked, i didnt know what to say. When i got home i hot really upset.
Such a hurtful throaway comment.Do not let it upset you.I suppose you were sitting enjoying the sunshine,and memories, and why not.I find when i am in shops,or the dentist,like today,i smile and talk,trying to feel less lonely and sad,but inside i am dying.My beautiful husband would have taken me to the dentist and picked me up,i really missed that today.I do drive,but didn’t nt for years,because Ronnie always did.Cannot park outside dentist,had to take two cabs.Terified of getting a puncture, or breaking down,feeling so helpless and alone.I have had several phone calls today from family, but still feel so lostband lonely. Sat in the garden when i got in,with a cup of tea,but had to go back in because the silence was deafening .He has been gone 8weeks,i cry now more than ever,and the pyhisical pain is always there…But,please,do not let one careless remark offend you.You know how you feel,and if having a coffee in your favourite place made you happy,even for a little while ,well,thats a bonus in these sad times .
Don’t let it upset you Jackie. They mean well, but most have absolutely no idea of how the loss of a partner affects you.
I often get that. I came back from a break last week and people kept saying oh you look a lot better. I usually tap my head and heart and say these aren’t and never will be.
I lost my lovely Jackie and nothing is going to bring her back. I will always love her.
I wrote these lyrics to my Jackie, put to music by @Tammy25 here
Imagine it’s your husband speaking to you. You take care
Johnr
That was Really nice jon,the lyrics were lovely
Been a busy day, but it’s another I have got through.
Another meeting with the bereavement counsellor tomorrow and then I have to trim some bushes in the front garden, so the estate agent photographer can take good pics of the house.
Hope you all had a good day, so night night and sleep tight. 
another day i have got through too jon.I hope your meeting tomorrow goes ok.Goodnight jon,i hope you sleep well.Take care
Its just over 1yr since i lost Peter, we had been married 50Yrs. I cry every day at some point, i really didnt need the comment, he made me feel awful. It was the first time since loosing Peter that i had visited our favorite coffee shop, it took a lot for me to go, without having a so called friend of his say that to me. x
Sorry to hear this Jackie. I went to a community coffee morning today and somebody said ‘he lost his wife 8 weeks ago. You wouldn’t know it would you’. Try to not let it get to you. If you are trying to do something normal, good for you. None of us want to cry all the time.
Dawn of a beautiful day ahead. Sun is shining bright with a temp of already 62. I don’t use that centigrade rubbish. Jackie always moaned at me for sticking to old stuff like temp and imperial measures.
Anyway I’m off to bereavement counsellor at 9. It’s only down the road so I can walk and get a paper at the same time.
Then come back for elevenses at 10 and start to work on trimming the bushes.
Hope everyone has a good day.
You have a good day too John. Well done for sticking to the 'old stuff '.
And you Jim. Take it easy
Have a good day John.
And you. Take care
@Jackie9
Hi. Maybe two ways to look at the guys remark to you.
He could in a strange awkward way be trying to be complimentary saying that you look well and good for all you’ve been and still are going through. I put on a ‘face’ when I’m out n try to look as though I’m ok when in actual fact I’m dying inside…
Or he is just a twonk with no empathy or knowledge of what you are going through.
Some people just don’t know how to talk around a bereaved person and for me it’s always best to just be natural. Their life is still the same so for me it’s easier to listen to them chatting about this n that…
I was actually asked out a few weeks ago and as I know him quite well I just took it as a gesture to sit n talk as he was widowed many years ago and I used to chat with him in the village after his wife died. He was a lost soul then and still is I think. He really didn’t mean any harm by it so I politely told him no not now or ever…