Brummy,
Thinking about you tomorrow.
I hope you managed today ok.
Take care.
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Thank you so much I am.sorry for your loss this is hell.we are all in I struggle to everyday I really feel sad and down today well that’s me everyday it is 30 weeks today since I lost my beautiful wife so suddenly I miss her so much I just cry all.the time it is really hard I am.hurting so much
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Evening everyone,
a mixed day emotionally today.
Thinking of you.
Hugs for those who need them.
Night night x
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Oh my goodness… I thought it was just me, going mad… I lost Mick on 5th November and am hurting so much. He told me to carry on, be happy and live my life, but how can I? We were a team, and now I am alone. I am terrified at the thought of the future alone. I want to stop crying but it just happens… But I can see from what others have written that we all have our own loss, but the pain, loneliness is felt by so many people. I get the feeling that people think I should be moving on now that the funeral has happened - how little they understand…
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Had an early Christmas for my two youngest grandchildren today. I can’t face proper the Christmas period. Today was bad enough though. All I could see was Jackie sitting in her chair watching the grandkids unpacking their presents. 
At least I can now hide myself away and let them enjoy the day with the rest of the family. 
Good night all, i know mine isn’t going to be that good
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Nightwish1
Its been a hard day today.Town was packed.I tried to find my dear wifes great grandmas grave in a local cemetery today, that really upset me.my wifes cousin took me there early in the year, i thought i would remember where it was but failed miserably.I could just ring my wifes cousin and ask her to take me again but shes difficult to get hold of.I was really upset when i got home.My wife thought a lot of her great grandma and my wifes mum did too.Thank you for thinking of me, it means a lot to me.Take care.
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Nightwish1
Its been a hard day today.Ive been to a local villages cemetery to try and find my dear wifes great grandmas grave.My wifes cousin took me earlier in the year with some flowers.I couldnt find it.It really upset me.I should just ring my wifes cousin and ask me to take me but she is so hard to contact.I feel nso sad and useless without my loving caring wife to help me.Take care.
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So sorry.
I don’t look to the future very often.
I can only speak for myself and I think I live mostly in the moment.
So, getting through the day or even on down day, getting through the morning,
then the afternoon and so on..
I hope you find your way through this.
You are a very early time.
Take care x
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P.S. don’t give yourself a hard time about crying it is. Part of grieving.
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I to would love to visit my wifes grans grave my wife really was so close to her gran but I have no way of knowing how to find it I would have loved to have meet her I am really really struggling just now just like yourself please look after yourself today I just feel so really down and think what is the point nobody cares and u have never felt so alone I truly am just so sad and alone
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There is website Find a Grave.
I don’t know the period it covers.
It may or may not have details
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I know a song about that
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Good morning all. I wish i could lie in, but years of getting up early when in RAF put a stop to that.
Anyway, I have a gardener coming today to do a winter tidy up.
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A perfect description , it says it all
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Morning everyone,
Take care.
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So sorry for your very recent loss and believe me there is no way you should be over ‘it’ especially after just a few weeks.
People just do not understand and might mean well but it’s a traumatic time and we just have to go with our feelings.
It’s 40 weeks for me and I cry regularly and tell myself off but it’s a natural feeling which we cannot stop and it’s horrible.
Only others who have gone through the same loss can understand so keep posting on here because personally I find it helps so much..
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Good Morning John and everyone.
The flowers absolutely beautiful today.
I bet it was lovely having your two youngest grandkids for an early Xmas. Bittersweet though.
I had my lot for over 24 hours and we had a get together last night at my house after seeing Santa arrive just up the road on his sleigh on the back of a huge waggon. The cat hadn’t a clue what was happening with six kids running around so he is having a mood this morning.
Like all of us I want to shut myself away for Xmas but can’t so got to put the mask on but it’ll be tough.
Have you sold your house yet. At the very least you have the move to look forward to and be nearer to your Jackie.
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Morning Mitzi
Yes sold my house a couple of weeks ago. Viewed some bungalows in Wales on Wednesday/Thursday and had an offer accepted on this one
So the solicitors are now battling it out and hopefully I should move in the next month or so.
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So sorry to hear you are struggling but please know that what you feel is normal , it’s such early days for you and you are still processing it all. You are not alone as all of us that have or are going through this nightmare care about you. Sadly unless people experience this, they don’t understand. Given time you will find your people who will love and support you, ironically, it usually comes from strangers you meet, a word, a conversation, compassion. It will come your way, just hang in there and hold on to all of us. Big hugs
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