I have to admit it the first time I have done any proper cooking since my husband died . I didn’t have the motivation to do it .so I thought I’d make up for it . My dog nose was working overtime lol
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Morning everyone,
it’s a bit grey but dry.
I hope you have a peaceful day.
Big hugs x
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Mitzi1 enjoy your day, wherever you end up. I’m actually from 200miles from here in Central Bedfordshire, I’m in my touring caravan which is here till the 1st July, I’ve got to go home again in a couple of weeks for a few days. A few years ago we had an amusing shop in Porthmadog, my Mum was away with us & had a 3wheeled walker but had said she’d really like a 4wheeled one with a seat on. I can’t remember where we were going to, we’d just turned onto the main shopping road, outside a charity shop was a 4wheeled walker. I looked at my wife & she glanced at me, I said “is there space to park?” There was a space next to the pedestrian crossing, she pulled in, without saying anything else we just dived out of the car & crossed to road, leaving Mum just sat in the back, wondring what was going on. We got to the shop, there was no price on the walker & a couple of steps in. Rachel went in and asked if it was for sale or did it belong to someone in the store. It had just been donated & they hadn’t had chance to price it! They said how much & Rachel virtually bit their hand off, paid & we took it back to the car, opened the back sliding door where Mum was sat & said “will that do you?” Mum’s reply was “where did you get that?” We explained and she said she’d wondered what the matter was when we suddenly stopped & just jumped out! The whole stop lasted about 10minutes at most! Mum used that walker for years after, even after getting a newer one she kept it to use in the back garden when putting washing out.
Hope everyone has as good a day as possible. The sun’s just come out here at the moment, not sure how long for.
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we all travel this awful path at different stages and hopefully can be here for one other.
I find Tuesdays hard as this was the day my husband passed but each time one comes around I feel I am getting a little stronger. I’m 56 weeks in now. Having a very good network of friends and family helps me.
I hope you can have a stress free day x
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Well done you. Can imagine your dog was by your side waiting for scraps. All the best to you x
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My dog is an English Setter quite tall , he can easily reach the worktops . And he is only young, I had to keep a close eye on him so he didn’t pinch any food lol 
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I will but would be much better if my John was here.
The prince of darkness aka the cat has settled in very well even after a two n half hour journey.
He’s the only reason I’m here at the moment because he would’ve stressed so much at home with strangers in n out n all the banging etc…
The things we do for pets and I’m not the biggest animal person..
Anyway off to Criccieth..
Enjoy your day and when do you move house.?
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That’s great John
Mines gone on Rightmove this morning, two viewings booked. Walking past to go the the supermarket this morning and seeing the board in the garden reminded me of how excited Stephen was when we saw it for sale. I was so lucky to of had these moments. We’ll be taking our memories with us x
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What an uplifting group this is. You’ve all shown me that I’m not alone in this surreal “atmosphere” I sometimes find myself living in.
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That’s for sure.
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Dear Bonnie
There’s bad days, theres truly terrible days and there’s days I’m glad I had my wonderful brilliant husband, that’s what I’m trying to focus on. I knew him so well I know he’d want me to be strong and look after myself. He knew me so well he’d know how much I miss him but I’d get on with it. It’s hard, really hard but we have no choice.
One dead rat removed, badger holes filled, now to repair the fence. He’s probably laughing at my DIY x
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Yes, I have no idea how will I cope and “exit” is something that seems very appealing at times. How do people survive this pain and all the added responsibility and extra work?
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Well done you , sorting a rat . I would have had screaming ad dabs
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Oh Helen, you are so uplifting with your news and doing so many jobs. You certainly are an inspiration to me and probably others. I did actually her out with a wonderful work friend today, she is so calming, had tears, but it wasn’t constant today. We managed to talk about some lovely memories we shared over the years. I felt a little more human with her today. Some people just know how to be with you. I’m going to have a coffee now and see what everyone has been up to. Sending hugs
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I knew my husband so well, I often used to say I could read him like a book . He also knew me really well. I know he would want me to carry on . I often think what would he do in this situation. It’s an emotional rollercoaster, and really difficult to navigate it . Look after yourself
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Anita, I think you’ll be surprised what you can achieve and how strong you are. Just try one small thing at a time and ask for help.
Wishing you all the strength you need
Tom
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Glad you’re outing went well for you today.
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We have to brave. My sister’s partner who we hadn’t spoken too for years has been such a help with jobs that were beyond me but I had to ask. Tomorrow I have an old school friend visiting that I’ve not seen for 10 years, I sent her a message.
If I’m going to live with this loss I know it’s up to me. There’s no one else to remove the rat or catch the spider (massive on a very high ceiling right above my bed) People who I thought would be there for me just disappeared after the funeral so I’ll find new ones
Just keep pushing forward a little bit at a time, it doesn’t matter that you do it while your crying. My heart is breaking selling this house but I must.
Look for bereavement groups they aren’t sad places, you’ll come out feeling lighter for talking to people who know what your going through.
Hope my tips help. I’m so grateful I found this group, other people sharing has certainly helped me x
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Thank Tom!
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I only asked for help once and that was when my wife was in hospital on oxygen,she needed to go the toilet as fluids were leaving her body, she rang the emergency button no one came,4 nurses outside her room I asked them to help me,they said its not there job they would get someone, I went back inside,disconnected her oxygen and got her off the bed into the toilet,not quick enough it was everywhere , a person came in a ND saw to her and got her back to bed,I was left to clear all the mess up on the floor, never in my life will I ask anyone for help again, I thought nurses were there for that, sorry for the rant, in the 3 days she was in there I never saw a proper nurse come in,
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