Thanks Helen I’m trying to do whatever I can and I’ve already been going to a bereavement group for seven weeks thanks to you I think. You are a great help with advice and your example. I really hope the sale of your house goes well.
Thank again
Tom
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Dear Spike
I know. My poor dad was left in a discharge lounge for 9 days before being transferred to end of life. It was unbelievable, I complained everywhere I could but it didn’t help dad. My formal complaint at least got a few things changed, I hope.
They aren’t all bad, my mom got wonderful care in a hospital dementia unit.
I’m sorry your wife had to suffer x
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yes she would not have survived anyway but some help would have been nice,she told me not to complain Incase they would not treat her,that is wrong for a patient to even think that, I feel better getting it off my chest,never mentioned it to anyone before but I saw comment to ask for help,nothing related to my problems but it set it off in my head.
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Hi Spike, my wife was in and out of hospitals for two years and I could tell you some horror stories but there have also been really moving moments too. Like everything in life there are probably doctors and nurses who should never have worked in hospitals but not everyone is bad. It’s a shame not to give others a chance as you might find lovely people as well.
All the best
Tom
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Thank you. Am pretty exhausted so am going to try and rest a while now.
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I hope everyone has a good nights sleep and that tomorrow brings you all a pleasant day
Tom 
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Anita66
I am so sorry for your loss.My dear wife had a genetic blood disorder that was inherited from her grandfather.She was under a consultant at a local hospital.They had put her on steroids to try and increase her blood count which was very low and platelets.When she went January 2025 the blood count hadnt gone up so they put her on other tablets, the side effects were horrendous.she was due back february last year but never made it.I still blame myself , i should have complained.It was all so sudden and unexpected.It has broken my heart losing her.she was so loving, caring, kind and gentle.its always the best that are taken from us, its so cruel.I am so grateful for this site and all the kind understanding people on here.Not being able to say goodbye to her really hurts me.I hope you are managing the best you can.its a horrible path we find ourselves on.i know what you mean regarding paperwork, i seem to have never ending forms from the solicitors.
Take care.
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Goodnight John x
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Good night sleep well
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Love01
It realy is an awful path we find ourselves on, its all so cruel too.i miss my dear wife so. much, i talk to her all the time.i cry literally every day still especially bedtime, i usually cry myself to sleep.i still cant accept what has happened, the suddeness and unexpectedness of the way it hapened.I often relive it over and over in my mind, its not as intense as it was but it still occurs.Seeing the paramedics doing CPR on her in our living room.it was so cruel what hapened to you one day before your wedding anniversary.I too am angry that God took my dear wife from me.WHY?what did we do to deserve this?It really has tested my faith.If God is a kind loving God why does he take lovely loving people so sudden?Its always the best people too.Its awful being alone, thats what i find so hard, just me now.Walk to work, back home to the empty, sad, lonely house that was once so filled with hapiness and joy.It really is an ongoing battle.If it was a boxing match, i would throw in the towel.We have to carry on and do our best, thats all we can do.take things one step at a time, one moment at a time.
Please look after yourself.
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Good night sleep well.
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Good night 
hope you sleep well
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Sending to you and everyone on here.
I have been notified today that Paul’s Coroner’s Inquest is confirmed 28th May which is also my eldest daughter’s wedding anniversary.
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Sending everyone a hug too, night night all x
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life is not fair sometimes
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You’re right Spike its so bloody unfair! 
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Good night to all , hope you have a peaceful night 
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Goodnight Sherbet x
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what some off us would give for a peacfeull night, mine usually is nightmare of hardly any sleep to get back to the morning sadness and do our best to get through that,this is the hardest battle I’ve ever had and only hope I win it but as getting older who knows and really who cares
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Hope you have a peaceful night spike. Do you watch TV until you fall asleep? Keep the TV on and watch again as soon as you wake, it helps me not think until I fall asleep again. We have to learn to switch our thoughts off, it’s too hard to think of the future without them. Please try x
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