Morning Michelle I am sorry you have had to join this path that none of us wanted to travel.
My husband passed on 4 March last year he was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer on January 13, 2025. Life is a cruel SoB.
I won’t lie and tell you it gets easier with time it’s just you have to adjust and boy it’s a big adjustment, them not being here physically with you everyday but they are always in you heart and mind and that will never change.
Having a good network of family and friends helps. Sadly the checking in on you daily does stop as I’m sure you have noticed yourself?
This forum was a lifeline for me I came across it on 12 April 2025 and it’s really helped me knowing that things I felt and were going through, yes they are normal for people grieving. Only people that have lost will truly understand us.
I must admit, I’ve had a few bad days recently as the date approaches. I usually have a few sobs every day, but this last week they have been a lot, almost continuous at times.
I also have the stress of trying to move house, which doesn’t help, but I have to do it.
Lovely words.
I hope you are ok, I didn’t realise you, Johnr and myself plus Michelle were all within days of each other losing our loved one.
Strangely today I’ve woken up feeling positive even though it’s the actual date but yesterday I was a complete wreck as Thursday was the horrid day.
I just kept thinking of what we were doing etc but we all do that.
It’s the strangest journey we are all on and you really don’t know from one minute to the next how you’re going to be…
Let’s try and have a good day as I’m sure our loved ones will want that.
Thank you so much.
I can honestly say I am so glad I found this site because everyone on it tries to help the other.
I know it’s only by texts but they count just as much as face to face..
Good Morning. Happy shopping and glad you’re feeling much better.
I took the mickey out of you last weekend so it’s your turn now because I’ve got the dreaded cold, note I didn’t say man flu, so feeling a bit worse for wear with a headache like a much too much to drink hangover…
Sadly our stories are similar, my partner was diagnosed on 1st Feb last year with stage 4 stomach cancer which had spread to his spine and lungs, he didn’t stand a chance. Heartbreaking. He was given a couple of years but caught pneumonia and couldn’t fight it and passed away 5 weeks later.
Yes the checking in stops and everyone carries on with their lives. That was when the reality and the loneliness kicked in. I got a dog for company and she is a little light in my dark life.
I hope you had to strength to think of your husband with fondness on his anniversary. Another milestone you didn’t want!
@Mitzi1 I am thinking of you today , I am glad you have woken up positive and I agree we all think back to what we were doing this time last year it’s normal. I hope your day carries on positively
Take care
