I don’t think it will be an easy fix between me and my son . Chatbox certainly gave me a few pointers in the right direction. Only time will tell .
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Squidge
i hope you have had a bearable day?The things you say are so true.My dear wife was taken so suddenly and unexpectedly that has so torn me apart.She was the most loving, caring, kindest,gentle person who made me so happy, now gone, its so cruel.Its always the best taken from us, thats what i find so painful too.I wouldnt have missed it either.I “Talk “ to my wife a lot , every day i thank her for being a lovely wife to me and i just wish she could be with me again but i know it cannot be.It really is a half life we live now, part of me went with my wife,No one really understands unless they have lost as we have and experienced what we are going through but everyone will have to face this at some stage.One of your neighbours saying that to you, they just dont get it.We hear all the phrases,”time heals”etc, me personally after 14 months i am not finding that.I still cry every day especially bedtime.grief doesnt have timelines or direction.We have to do what is best for us, take things one step at a time, one moment at a time.Our life and ourselves have changed forever, we will never be as we were, its like a new chapter in the book of life but i want to turn back the pages to what i loved so much with my dear wife beside me but i know i cant so just have to carry on the best i can.I have found this site such a godsend , everyone understands how we feel and is so kind.Take care.
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That is great news johnr.I hope all goes well.Take care.
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Good luck Sherbet. Hope you sleep x
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Good night everyone. Tomorrow I’ll accept an offer on our house, sad but has to be done. I’ve been making a list of properties to view, I’ll start tomorrow. I still can’t believe I’m selling our dream home, it feels like another thing gone.
Fingers crossed we all sleep, leave your worries with your slippers x
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Night All
Hope we all get some sleep tonight
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Good night everyone
Just got back from my bereavement group and it’s late so sleep well
All the best
Tom 
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Good night Tom x
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You too sleep well
Wishing you all the best for tomorrow
Tom
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Night night Helen. Good luck with everything, I’m sure there’s a lovely house out there for you. Have a restful night 
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Night night hope all went well x
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Sorry you’ve had a bad day, hopefully tomorrow will be better. Let’s hope we all have an alright night.
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That’s great news, let’s hope everything goes smoothly with the rest of the process.
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It’s sad the things we have to do to survive this awful ride we find ourselves on. Stephen would understand that you can’t manage your dream home alone, that you need to find somewhere you can manage yourself. Sadly, like all of us on here, your dream has been ripped away & you’ve now got to try and rebuild a future without your loved one by your side. I hope you have a good night and tomorrow maybe you’ll arrange to go and view the place which will become your new home. Since I lost my Mum (she only lived a little way down the road) aswell as having lost Rachel I’d love moving to be an option for me. Sadly I’m in a housing association 2 bedroom bungalow so moving’s not so easy, I’d only be eligible for a 1bed now. There’s no way I’d want to downsize, the only thing that keeps me sane is crafting, I wouldn’t have enough room for all my craft supplies. So I’m stuck where I am, I’m grateful that a new house has been squeezed in down the road, prior to it being built I could see my old bedroom window at Mum’s from my driveway. During lock down, we had to shield (well Rachel did & the size of the bungalow I couldn’t be a safe distance from her) and so did Mum, she’d go into my old bedroom & we went out on the drive so we could see & wave to one another.
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Night everyone, let’s hope it’s an ok one for us all.
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Hallo brummy.
It’s late so I’ll be brief. I just wanted to say how much I appreciated your post, how I could have written much of what you wrote, how true it is that this grief business is utterly unpredictable, and what a wonderful and kind group this: knowing that others have some notion of what it’s really like and don’t have expectations of me that I can’t meet is such a support.
I can’t remember what if anything you’ve written about night times and sleep but I hope that you at least manage to get some rest.
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Thank you Lg, fingers crossed we all get some sleep x
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Fun day today (not)
Had another nosebleed today, only started getting them last year when my parents got terminally ill. My blood pressure is (surprisingly) normal and rather unremarkable, had a health check 2 weeks ago.
Obviously stress/grief related, I should get it checked out.
On the plus side, I started therapy yesterday, was dreading it at first, but the counsellor was very good, a sharp eyed type, so will be sticking to it.
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Good morning John. I’ve been awake since 4am.
Hope you have a good day
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Hi John
I have been awake since 4.40 got 2.5 hrs sleep I would love more than this
Sweetlady
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