I tried magnesium tablets for about 10 days, but they gave me the runs and I still didn’t sleep. It must be the whisky 
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I am sorry about your friend.
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Sorry you are all having a sad hard time this morning. I am off to see my daughter tis morning. Went and saw an old friend of Elizabeth’s yesterday, took her out to lunch, reminisced about our lives with Elizabeth. Did not cry. A good day. Not a brilliant night’s sleep but got about 5 hours with a break in the middle, but life is improving slowly. That is just over 15 months in. So it has got less sad for me, I will always miss Elizabeth and always love her, But I am determined to remember the happy times like her old friend and I did yesterday. It was good.
Please try and find a happy memory, there must be one there somewhere. Your partners would not want you to be so sad.
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I am new to this site and lost my husband 18mths ago. He was only 58 i thought i was ploddi g along ok but it seems to have hit me again i miss him every day but i suddenly realise how lonely i am without him
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Hello Daisy, sorry to hear about your loss. My wife of 42 years passed in April. This is a hard and unpredictable journey we are on.
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Daisy24,
I am so sorry for your loss and that you are on this path. The loneliness is hard,feel free to rant and ramble on here. It helps i do. We all understand what you are going through on this path. Please look after yourself and take care.
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So sorry for the loss of your husband Daisy.
I lost my wife, Jackie , 20 weeks ago today.
Loneliness is a killer so please chat as much as you can here.
Yes it’s a sad place to be, but you will find that you’re not alone.
Take care 
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Thanks so much the fact that i am 55 with no one to talk to any more no one to plan a future with scares me i have no idea what to do we were together 35 years. I feel lost
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Morning John
I’m struggling as always, but that’s the way it is for us now, I’ve been on some wonderful road trips with our two youngest, it’s the coming home which is hard, the house is so quiet without him here, he was always here, working, whistling, singing, shouting even!
I hope you have a good day xx
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Hello Daisy, it’s a lonely path indeed. My husband died on April 7 here at home. I promised him he wouldn’t go into hospital (there was no treatment he could’ve had in hospital at that point, anyway). We’d been together for 55 years to the day that he’d died. I miss him so, so much. I pretend to the family that I’m ok, but I’m not. I’m horrendously lonely.
I find I’m not crying as desperately now, as I was in the first few weeks. It can come on me suddenly, in waves, though. The other day I was feeding the cat and I just started crying!
You’re not alone, Daisy. We’re all here, with our own stories and grief, but there’s always someone who will be reading your posts and will answer you. Xx
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Daisy I know exactly how you feel.
I’m 79 and I’m thinking my life has been devastated. 
I was with Jackie for 60 years, nearly 58 of them married.
Both our partners would want us to live the rest of what remains of our lives the best we can.
You have many years ahead of you and have a chance to find happiness again.
You and I will never stop loving our partners even if we find someone else to share our lives.
I know it’s extremely difficult to even think this way, but I know my Jackie and your husband would want us to be happy.
Please chat here. We are all on this sad journey
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It’s so difficult Glenys.
I hate coming back to an empty house.
Some friends invited me to a pub tonight just for a couple of drinks.
At first I said no, because Saturdays are not good for me. I’ve just sent them a text saying I’ll go, just to force myself out.
I will probably enjoy the meet up, particularly as I haven’t seen one friend since Jackie’s funeral, however I know that I’ll burst into tears as soon as I get home.
You have a good day as well
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Well said 
This is so true he would definately want me to be happy but you feel such guilt for thinking it and we did everything together never wanted anyone else where do you even start? Sorry ranting today weekends are hard
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Where do you even start?
At my age, I’ve forgotten how to socialise, but I’m trying.
You’re not ranting at all. Weekends are bad for me as well.
Try to join a local bereavement group. I went to my first meeting last Thursday and there were some lovely people to talk to.
Take care
Hello Daisy, I can completely sympathise with your feelings of loss and loneliness. I’m also in my 50’s and lost my wife nearly 4 months ago - after 30+ happy years together.
I’m finding it very difficult to cope day to day - never mind think about any future I might have. I have started counselling which seems to be the one positive thing I’m doing. Also, being part of this community makes me feel less alone - not many in real life understand the pain and alienation of losing a partner - everyone here does.
Sorry not to have a more positive reply, but sending support & sympathy your way.
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Hi jojay
Thanks for the reply maybe i can offer you some positivity in saying that day to day does get easier you learn to cope but the lonliness for me is the worse i think this community will help me a lot
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John, i hope you have managed to get through today ok.Today was not good for me but tomorrow is my "bad " day when my dear wife passed.Take care
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Nightwish1
Thank you for your understanding and everyone on here too.I dread tomorrow.Today was not good.Went into town ,did my now usual shopping for one, seeing couples everywhere, came home and cried, the most i hve cried for a while.I cry every day night time especially but today was awful i just couldnt stop crying.I seem to have gone backwards if that makes any sense.Take care
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Hi brummy,
Sorry you have had a bad day today. We are allowed to have bad wave days. We sometimes seem to go backwards in are grief. It’s hard,its crap and summer seems to bring the happy couples out. Food shopping is hard. You need to get stuff but you just can’t be bothered or see the point.
I hope you have a better day tomorrow, i know it’s a hard day for you. Take care.
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