Dan, you and your sons are in my thoughts and prayers.x
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I respect that x
I hope everything went ok as it could for you and your sons. Take care
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It went ok thank you. Funerals are sombre but i feel that we did our best for Tracy and i hope she was watching and smiling down
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Trying to be postive so. Good morning everyone. Lets hope today is better then yesterday.
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Hello Nightwish and everyone. I do hope you’re all having as good a day as you possibly can. I’ve had a terrible week, can’t shake off the depression, can’t motivate myself to do anything. Sleep seems to be beyond me and I know the tiredness makes everything so much worse. The days are endless. Sending hugs to everyone.
Hi Patsy i think it’s one of them weeks for most of us. All we can do is just to keep going and hope tomorrow will be better. I wish i could say something really positive to keep people going. Just look after yourself i know it’s hard work but please try.
Hi Patsy, you’ve summed up where I am perfectly. Fridays between 2 and 3pm (when we had the service at the crematorium 13 weeks ago) are always very difficult but most days seem to gone the same way recently.
I’m really sorry that you’re struggling too. I guess all we can do is hang on and hope. Good luck.
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Hi Nightwish and PSHm3, thank you both for what you say. It’s not nice this awful hopeless helpless feeling we all have and all the other emotions we have. Loneliness is the major part., the only one we want isn’t here My family are so far away, they keep in touch frequently and are so wonderfully caring and, they’re grieving too. I hope both of you and everyone here have family and friends close by. X
My dog gave me purpose and routine when David passed 5 months ago, on Monday 14th my charlie went over rainbow bridge , i am devastated beyond belief , no routine now, my life and house are empty .
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Sorry for the loss of your dog. I hope Sue is with are cats waiting for me.
Good Morning everyone. I hope you all have a better day then yesterday. Take care and look after yourselves.
So sorry to hear that. Losing a dog is so incredibly painful on top of the grief for your husband. My wife passed away at the end of January and I have a little Shih Tzu who is good company but she’s very old with quite a few problems so I don’t know how much longer she’ll be with me.
Thank you Nara, Nightwish1, for reaching out. My routine is now non existence, this morning i prepared myself to go into town, got into the car went into freefall, out of the car through the front door, here i am on the saviour site ranting.
Best wishes
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You do not rant or ramble. I think we all need this to know we are not alone.
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You rant girl…you can do whatever you feel or want to do if it helps.
I’m usually up by now but still thinking about a shower and getting ready. I then think why should I.?
Is it just to keep up a pretence that I’m fine and ok for when my sons call round or if a friend descends…
Six weeks in and I’m very sad and decided I have to be kind to myself n stop thinking of how I should come across to people who have no idea how I actually feel and why should they.? It’s my loss n my sadness not theirs…
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Your right, we are not alone on this site, and yet we are, we are in the loneliness place on the planet in our so called homes. Currently watching raindrops on the windows thinking should i go back to tai chi today.
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Very true - it is your own grief so deal with it any way you can and don’t feel you need to pretend for anyone else.
I know others will find open grief awkward and sometimes shy away, either not knowing what to say or too aware of their own vulnerabilities (I’ve certainly had precious little support from people I’d have expected to help) but if you pretend you’re ok they’ll treat you that way.
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Mitzi1, it is pretence in front of real people , your right they have no idea of what, why and who, and why should they, they dont know me. If i go to tai chi today, it will be pretence again, i know i should go make an effort, if i dont go the likelihood is i will not see anyone today. Decision decision grrrrrr
One thought for all of us on here though… and please don’t take offence, it’s just the way my mind is taking me this morning. My way if coping today.
I know we need this site, for many it’s our only link with the outside world and we can say what we really think without fear of judgement, but I sometimes wonder just how healthy it really is.
I worry that, for all the good it does to let out our feelings on here, being surrounded by such raw emotions risks dragging us down further.
Misery, I believe the saying goes, is contagious.
Confirmation bias - I expect things to be awful, find everyone on here feels the same way, ( obviously, we’d not be here if we didn’t) so I believe that’s the way it will always be. Is that what I’m thinking ?
Sorry, I’m rambling this morning, just trying to clear my head.
There’s no way out of here that I can see, or even want right now. I simply wouldn’t feel right. I fear sometimes that I need to be miserable to maintain contact with my wife, that not feeling this way is a betrayal of her somehow.
Nonsensense, I know.
How many times have I said, ‘Jill, I’m never not thinking of you’? That’s never going to change. I just hope that one day the balance will shift and I’ll be able to take comfort from the good memories of our time together not just the agony of her loss.
The grieving process in a nutshell.
As I’ve said, we are here because circumstance has forced us here. The club nobody wants to join, right? We’re also here because we genuinely, often desperately, need to be here; often don’t have any other support ( I know I won’t) but wouldn’t it be nice to know that there is a way out, that it doesn’t always have to be this way?
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