I know what you mean. Sometimes you do get posts which are postive about light at the end. Which can feel hard to believe. One day hopefully we can be them people to give people hope on this crap path.
I afraid at the moment i need this and i do wish i could be more postive and helpful. Take care everyone and please look after yourselves.
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@PSHm3
I have actually thought the very same thing. I suppose we go on the site if we want to one day and then sometimes we don’t want to.
My cousin lost her daughter a couple of years ago and she and her husband have not talked about their loss. She said she has her own grief and overwhelming loss and cannot take his on as well…That’s her way, but she used this site. I find it difficult to understand that she can’t talk to her hubby but did on here…
It’s very early days for me at just six weeks but I know I have to move fwd because it’s healthy and the only way, we can’t go back as much as we’d love to do but it doesn’t mean I’m not in love with the love of my life anymore. I break down all the time n sometimes I can’t face the day and reading others pain on here.
Everyone individual n I suppose we do what we have to do to get through.
I hope you ok today
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I’m afraid I have nothing positive to say today, I’m in a really dark place at the moment. Knowing there are people on this site that I can express my feelings to helps a bit, as we’re in this sad place together. I’ve just had a shower after (it helps a bit as I have one every morning but someday I don’t bother) staring into space with my thoughts. I will get through this, and hope everyone does. Tomorrow is a new day.
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I have been away from tai chi since September 2024, but today i did go to tai chi, only 1 lady gave me the ( i wont bother you look) . The arms and feet did their own thing , i did feel totally unprepared i am glad i made it through without incident. Its been a unexpected morning, tomorrow could well be totally different.
Sussexlass you must be devastated losing your dog. I know how important my dogs are to me at this awful time. I’m so sorry.
This is the only club in town, where else can you go in your pjs and drink hot chocolate, 24/7 be listened too and understood, personally i find it easier to open up on here than anywhere, a place you can be yourself.
Hugs to all
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Thank you Numb1, my Charlie a faithful friend . 3 steps forward 5 steps back. Empty house syndrome, a truly horrible time.
Take care ofyour fur babies. X
And you know that everyone on this site can relate to your pain and wishes you have some relief from the intolerable pain.
A big well done - sounds patronising but you know what I mean. Any win is a big win at the moment - now I’m reduced to clichés, sorry.
Seriously though, feel proud at getting through this morning; even if tomorrow you dip you now know that you can.
I’ve only been on this site a half dozen times and have wondered the same as you . It does help to know that you’re not the alone in your feelings , but the constant anguish is definitely not helping me . I’m only a few weeks down the line so expect that I will feel like shit most of the time right now . What I’m grieving for our hopes and dreams for the future . Jeff and I had so many plans for our retirement and now that’s gone . But even at this early stage I know I’m going to have to make a new future for myself , sink or swim … maybe a different conversation thread about ideas for coming out of the darkness will be good ?
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Yes, its the lifeline we / I need to help us all on this horrible journey we are forced on.
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I do know what you mean, and yes its a cliche but said with sincerity, ill take the win,not a win of Olympic porportions more of a junior spoon race, a win is a win , tell that to my aching muscles, if i had not gone, i would not have seen anyone today.
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Thank you.
Hi Janette, i am so sorry to hear your story, plans grrrrrrr we have all made them and they have been cruelly cut short. I too am in sink or swim mode, currently trying to swim but tomorrow i could be sinking each day is different , i dont want to plan either. I like your idea of a new thread coming out of the darkness/fog/gloom .
Its a scary thought to think about moving on sends me into freefall, dont want to think about it, but you/we must know that in order to survive it comes back to sink or swim. No magic wand here.
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Sussexlass. I had my dogs at the groomer’s a couple of weeks ago so I came back to an empty house. Although I knew it was only for a few hours it made me sad. Keep your head up if you can.
Janette and PSHm3 you’ve echoed my thoughts perfectly. I have to take breaks from this site and also there are certain threads that I now just have to avoid because they drag me down. I’m sure I came across a thread that was about looking forward with positivity but I can’t find it again.
This is one that is positive
There is hope, do try to grasp it!!
Don’t know how to copy the link
Also search moving on. Amongst house moving stuff there are links to other things about moving forward.
Thanks , I’ll have a mooch in a few days . Take care xx
Try searching positive you’ll find people who in spite of the difficulties are finding ways to cope
Sorry to drone on but if you search in categories there is a looking to the future section. I’m finding these as I go.