Hi, I just joined this group hoping for some help. I can’t carry on don’t know how or even want to. My husband just passed on Monday. I’m absolutely heart broken. I can’t eat, drink I’m shaking through out I just sit and cry everyday. No family have been her just me and my youngest daughter. Looking for some help. People to talk to xx
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You are amongst friends…use this forum…it has been my crutch for almost 2 years…so sorry you had to join this club 
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This a lovely, supportive forum, very caring. I’m quite new here myself, but I’ve already found that out. Very sorry to hear what you’re going through.
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Thankyou x
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I am so sorry for your very recent loss. It is awful. The shock and grief is unbearable. This site is excellent and made me realise I am not alone. Hugs x
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So sorry to hear of your loss. So new and raw for you, you are in shock and will be for some time. You have jojned a club that no one wsnts to beling to. Everything will work through even if you can’t see how at the moment. I hope you will get some support from friends and family but in the meantime come on here and find comfort from us who understand your pain.
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Hello
How are you at the moment? Just found your post. Carry on sharing because it does help to talk here.
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Caroline, I am so sorry. Oh my dear. It is so horrible, isn’t? Indescribable. Only widows and widowers know. Truly. From what I have gathered here, your reactions are completely normal. It is a trauma to lose a spouse and you are normal.
But you have to eat. And drink. Otherwise, you will pass out. What do you like to drink? Soda? Tea? Have you ever tried refreshing iced tea? Oh, so delicious. Drink whatever, but drink. Sip it through a straw and crushed ice. Just not alcohol.
Hints from my survival kit: boil a dozen eggs, put them in the fridge and eat 2 a day, randomly, or make and egg salad sandwich. Keep fresh chopped fruit in the fridge. Dried cranberries. Raisins.
Salad in a bag for toppings on sandwiches or for salads.
Make a chicken salad and what ? Put it in the fridge.
Fresh tamales?
Yep. Then you nibble. That is how I made it through the first 3 or 4 weeks.
At 6 weeks, I have graduated to cooking ground sirloin beef patties and green beans from a can along with pre-made lasagna which I cut into 2 inch squares.
But, I haven’t eaten today. I have no appetite whatsoever and because I didn’t boil my eggs yet, it will be a while.
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Hi Caroline. I’m so sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through. I lost my wife suddenly last month. She was 57. We were together for 40 years and I miss her so, so much.
The heartbreak is unbearable. I can’t eat or sleep and the crying just won’t stop. I have no family, other than my mother who lives a four-hour drive away, but I have friends who have been a great support.
I am new to this group and everyone on here has been incredibly kind and supportive. Grief affects people in different ways but I have been surprised at how many people have gone through exactly the same as I have over the last few weeks.
It is a great comfort to be here with people who completely understand what you’re going through. Until I lost my wife I had no idea how deep and painful the sadness would be but everyone here is incredibly kind and has been a great help to me.
Sending you lots of love.
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Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Thankyou so much. I do feel very alone, suffocated, numb, can’t eat, drink nothing x
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Thankyou x
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Thankyou so much. I’m sorry for ur loss xx. I’m like u can’t eat, drink just sit and cry on my own. This world is so cruel. I have no parents, just my sister her family and my 3 girls (which it hasn’t hit yet) …
At present I need people who know what it’s like, so I’m so grateful I found u all. X
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Thankyou x
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Thankyou so much
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I’m not coping, spent last 2 days home alone as my children can’t come here yet due to his stuff everywhere… I’m at a lossxx
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I really appreciate ur kind words and advice. I’ve had one cup of coffee since Monday. Totally broken x
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Thank you Caroline. I burst into tears reading your message. I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through. I feel for you so much, it’s absolutely unbearable.
Losing a loved one is extremely cruel. The anguish and suffering is horrific. It’s exactly one month today since I lost my darling wife and I’m going over and over what happened, again and again.
No words will reduce the agony, I know that. Thinking of you and sending you a big hug.
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You must eat and drink. You may not feel like it, please do, or you will cope even less. Your girls will cope even less with you ill. It is the worst feeling in the world. The first few days are horrendous. Please look after you. Hugs x
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