I’m so very sorry for you all that are new to this waking nightmare. I can’t take away the pain but I can only tell you how I am managing my own grief. I’m 17 weeks into the loss of my darling husband and at first my body seemed to shut down with shock. I wandered from room to room not knowing what to do with myself because I also couldn’t eat or sleep. I joined this forum then and found the help I needed to move forward with my life. First and foremost was the importance of eating and keeping hydrated. I felt like my throat was closing but I started with soup and bread. It’s been about taking baby steps and not trying to escape the pain. I have children and grandchildren and we’re able to help each other. I also have MS which makes life very difficult too but slowly I’m starting to enjoy things again. The horror of the first few weeks has quietened down and I’m getting on with living which is what Paul would want me to do. Of course I have extremely sad times but remembering the happiness we shared is priceless! Love and hugs X
So sorry for your loss.
My boyfriend died Tuesday 29th October - he was just 33 years old. I don’t know what I am doing either. So many friends and family rallying around me but none of them are him, and I can’t get my head around the fact he isn’t here.
Lots of love to you. I read so much about grief and losing parents but not much about losing a partner. I am terrified of being alone for the rest of my life because there is no way I will ever find anyone as special as him. I am panicking too. You’re not alone. <3
Thankyou 
and thinking of you too. How do we get through this, how can we carry on each day is harder and harder and I’ve not seen him yet today been everyday so far x
Big hugs . That’s how I feel. But I don’t have people rallying around xxx
Hello caroline ive lost my husband 6 months ago together 43 years im heartbroken everyday is a struggle cant sleep cant think straight on ny own no support from family x
I lost my husband 6 wks ago and my brother 4 wks before that. I haven’t grieved for my brother yet because the loss of my amazing husband of constantly reminded o is devastating. He was my soulmate, best friend, my rock. I found this group chat in the first week and its helped me a lot. People have shared ideas on how to get through the days and nights. One lady suggested doing 5 small things a day like doing the laundry, wash the dishes, pop to the shops, etc sounds crazy but, as I stopped doing anything, it gradually got me thinking and moving. 35 things you’ve done in a week!!! Another suggestion was to change things slightly, she bought new bedding, moved the chair her husband used into another room just so she wasn’t constantly reminded that he wasn’t there. At the moment I panic at the thought of the future, take the present a day at a time and long for the past. Sending love and support to everyone x
Oh Caroline, I feel for you, I really do. I have the same thoughts about how I am going to carry on and they absolutely terrify me. I am completely lost and so lonely after my wife died.
We had been together since we were teenagers. Being with my wife was the only adult life I ever knew (and wanted) but that life ended on that horrific day.
The future scares me, really scares me. I am still here and I have to carry on but I am taking my time. I can only do so much in a day. I have to build a new life but that has to be one small step at a time. It will still include my wife. I loved her deeply and I always will. She will be forever by my side.
I have found that some of my friends who were supporting me at first have now drifted away, as if I had a bad cold and should be over it by now. It is so, so hard to cope with this on your own but I am so glad I found this site. I don’t know where I would be without everyone on here.
Please keep coming back. People on here really care about each other and truly understand what we are all going through. xx
Thankyou
Thankyou so much. I feel like I’m going to explode inside and scream inside. I saw a medium today my hubby came through… Told me things no one would know, he’s out of pain, has his colour back and happy but missing me and worries plus loads more x
I’ve found the same regarding friends and family. My hubby died Monday not seen anyone not even my daughters. I do have my youngest at home but it’s not hit her yet… U are all truly amazing x
I know it’s not the same as having someone with you but talking on here with people who genuinely understand the pain and anguish we are all going through is a great help.
Please keep coming back.
Thankyou dave x
Big big hugs my husband is Paul x
Could you link the medium? I really want to try…
Private message me and I’ll get her details for u tomorrow morning x
We are here with you, I am 5 weeks in since my wife died, I can’t tell you it gets easier, it doesn’t, but you get better at dealing with it, inch by inch, day by day. Nothing will make sense at the moment, that first week is numb pain and loss, but we are here and we are listening and we know what you are going through. Hugs
I don’t think any words would help at this raw stage of grief, I’m one month in since I lost husband, I’m still not eating much, lived off Jaffa cakes for a few weeks,slept on the couch, had no visitors apart from my daughter, still don’t get many visitors, the only thing that helped me was jumping on a bus to get out, go for a walk, I cried all day, just let it out, it’s the most awful thing to experience in life. I didn’t realise the pain going through this. This group has been great, don’t know what I would have done without it. Keep chatting to us, we will help you Sending hugs xx
Yes if your throat is like that I understand how everything would stick in your throat. When you try but it doesn’t work.
No one thought about me at that stage. No one thought to bring easily slip down food.
Even if it tastes like nothing whatsoever.
Feel nauseated.
I lost my husband on Friday and know exactly how you feel please feel free to private message me any time maybe we can help one another x