I didn’t find much help from McMillan either when I lost my hubby 11 months ago, the woman that came round to see me I found rather condescending, I was lucky that a local group that my GP referred me to was lovely and St.Barnabas was also very supportive.
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@Dizzapea know it’s not the outcome you had planned but why continue with your house sale? I know the buyers wouldn’t be best pleased but you have to look after yourself first and they would find somewhere else, if you really do want to sell give yourself some time first when your in a better place to handle all the added stress of moving.
When it comes to family it’s horrible they are not there for you to lean on, as the saying goes ‘you can choose your friends but not your family’ sometimes you have to give yourself that clean break, I had a half sister who was like that when our mum passed many years ago.
Please reach out to anyone & everyone find one that truly understands and can give the support you need, not knowing where you are or who is dealing with the funeral but some of them can offer the support, mine were brilliant…but most of all don’t give up, keep going even through the darkest of days this place is open 24/7 so come here we are all with you.
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@Freedomlass the house is owned with my ex. I can’t afford to buy him out so I have no choice. It’s been really long and drawn out but i really have zero choice unfortunately
I own a house with my ex. It’s been in the process of sale since last January. My cats were still living there. I had however been spending at least 6nights out of 7 at my boyfriends house. Only thing that was really left to move in ws the cats and I’d been holding off because of his dogs. My own house is about to be sold. I have no choice in this. My boyfriends house is now being lived in by his ex and their children
No, 2 separate houses. My boyfriend who passed away was not yet divorced. His house has his ex and children living in it as she was still on yhe mortgage. Mine is co-owned with my ex and he needs it sold and I cannot buy him out. Im on my own with no job as self employed and not able to work so while I will have money from my house sale, no one will trust me with a rent until I have the cash
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This is a difficult situation your in which you really don’t need while your going through this journey of grief, your self employed work is that something you do from home? as if you found a private rented place the money from the sale of your joint home would cover you for a while then you would be able to continue with your work and show that as your income, also approach the council and see what they have to say, it’s not like you are making yourself homeless and they still have a duty of care…hope it all works out for you.
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I can sympathise with you freedomlass.i had 22 wonderful years with my gorgeous fantastic wife sue .two of now ex friends a week after sue passed away sent me links to dating sites and one sent his sisters phone number so you guess my reply. Yes all it seems to be is paperwork after paperwork. Got through sues final journey which was on what would have been our 7th wedding anniversary and sues birthday on the 19th of this month. I,m dreading our bike club charity events in june and September because everyone loved sue being there even though she didn’t camp.i was ringing her through the weekend and nipping back to see if she was ok.its going to be odd not calling or nipping home to see if sue was ok.even though family are really supportive i just feel so lost and alone and angry at scunthorpe hospital who i feel could have done more for sue
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I was very unhappy with the care my husband was getting in hospital. We all were. Wee said at the time, during the first week, that after this was over and he was home, we’d go to PALS and make a complaint. He never came home and we didn’t. I’ve thought about it, especially as he caught Covid during that week, which is what killed him. There’s supposed to be a policy of wearing masks in the hospital, but it’s so lax. I can’t believe they allow visitors on a respiratory ward without masks. People wandering round the hospital, no masks. It beggars belief. I haven’t got the strength to fight in order to follow up any complaint. It’s cruel, it’s unjust, but I have to learn a lesson in acceptance and take the least line of resistance.
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