No, not some rehash of the Boomtown Rats classic. Just I have realised I hate Thursdays.
Why, because that is the day my wife died. Last Thursday I had a meltdown, vented on here and went back to bed for a cry.
Today, (8 weeks) I was in the office, but completely lost concentration and did not take in any of the online training I was supposed to be doing… I couldn’t cry in front of my colleagues (although some would have understood)
Is it because another whole week has passed since she has gone? What will 2 months (in 4 days time) be like?
Anyone else hate a certain day of the week? Aside from the weekends that many struggle with?
@PJ64 since my Dad died on a Wednesday, I find myself keeping tally of how long it’s been in weeks since I last saw him. It’s maddening really. When it gets to mid week, I find myself thinking here we go again so I can totally get where you’re coming from. Certain days, certain times hold that painful meaning for us.
@PJ64 I can totally relate to what you have said. The bell tolls for me o Thursday as well. It’s 9 weeks today since I lost my Tony. Every Thursday is a painful reminder of my loss and the crying does not stop for most of the day.
Sending hugs. Joyce x
I understand entirely what you mean, though the day l hate most is Friday. Each Thursday evening l go to bed utterly dreading the coming day. And tomorrow it will be 8 months since my husband died, and l don’t know where the time has gone. It feels like yesterday since he went, and it feels like years, both at the same time. I miss him so much.
Mine is Saturday, Chris had his heart attack on Saturday and passed away at 1pm the following Saturday. It’s been made worse by the fact that many weeks it’s one of the few days I have nothing in my diary. One Saturday, the sixth after his passing I had gone to the gym with my daughter and we went into the pool, I was swimming up the lane and looked up at the clock and it just went to 1pm, I then added my tears to the water in the pool. I felt so stupid but I couldn’t stop sobbing.
We have been there since at the same time and I can now get through it when I am there. But the Saturdays that I am at home on my own are awful
It’s a Saturday for me, and the start of the weekend will never be the same. My partner passed away not long after 12 noon, and now, seven months later, I’m still quite low and can’t get myself out of the house on a Saturday morning. Previous to losing him I wouldn’t have understood but now I sadly do. Love to everyone on this painful journey xx
@PJ64 its Wednesdays for me. I thought I was the only one who struggled like that. 8 Wednesdays now.
I look a the clock and think this is when he went to sleep, this is when he took his last breath. And when we altered the clocks I got into a panic about what time it all happened.
Saturday for me. Back on February 11th this year at about 8pm Keef went. I still dread the weekends and often find that I’m not really doing anything, which doesn’t help. It almost feels like people avoid me on a Saturday, apart from my daughter but she has her own grief to deal with. Hopefully one day I will enjoy Saturdays again but I think now that it’s winter everything feels worse as he was looking so ill this time last year and I still feel that I didn’t do enough. xx
Saturday night into Sunday morning. Steve passed on my birthday 10 days after being diagnosed. 9 weeks this weekend. I almost always end up awake at 1.30 on sunday which is the time he left me.
Hi @ PJ64
For me its too days Thursdays as the day he passed away and Wednesdays funeral day.
So not looking forward to Christmas or New Year week. Think i might just hide away until that time is over.
But i will get through it somehow as time just moves on without him here physically but with me always in my heart.
Take care
Lynne
Thursday for me as well, 15 June this year l lost my husband ,it seems forever but loke yesterday ,I will feel Im leaving him further behind as we begin 2024 as if he will be forever in 2023, I think we all know exactly what I mean ,
I feel exactly the same about Tuesdays. My husband Mark of 40 years died on that day totallt unexpectedly and i hate Tuesdays now. It makes me remember every single detail of having police come round to tell me they had found him . He had a heart attack at work. This was 6 months ago and i cry more on a tuesday. It has got a bit better over last couple of weeks.
I know what you mean @Raffy - l’m sure we all do. It feels to me like l am moving further away from my John every day now. I try to balance that against the thought that, if there is something beyond this life - which l fervently hope there is - well, every day takes me a little bit closer to being back with him, if you understand what l’m trying to say. Not having a very good day today, lots of tears again x
For me it’s a Saturday. My husband died very suddenly in the garden and I found him already gone. It’s 10 weeks tomorrow and I relive that day moment by moment. Today is a bad day as well because I’m thinking about the last day we had together and how lovely my life was with him through 42 years . I dread his birthday in December, then Christmas and the New Year. I’m just going to try to get through it by being on my own. At least we all understand what it’s like for us even if other people don’t. X
I understand yes ,sorry today is a bad day for you, your not alone as you know ,every hour can be different as well ,some days are a hopeless going round in circles questioning everthing arent they ? Other days I feel hope and positivity especially with being on this site taking comfort from kind words knowing you all understand, hoping tomorrow is better or we can cope a bit better ,always here for a chat / moan or anything x
This community is the best kind of help I’ve found so far. There is a lack of support groups in my area or counselling apart from on the phone, and I’m still at the stage where I cry a lot and they probably wouldn’t understand a word I’m saying! So not an option for me.People in this community give great advice even on practical matters and when they share some positive experiences I’m sure it can give us all hope. X
I hate Saturdays now, firstly because that’s the day I lost the love of my life but now all I see is people doing lovely things with their families and loved ones. Also people counting down to weekends when I absolutely dread them
Its a more conventional Monday for me. He was in hospital to investigate his low blood pressure which was causing blackouts. Had bashed head twice in 8 days. I said goodbye to him on Sunday night, was woken at 6 am Monday to be told he was unresponsive. Dashed down on train, he had bleed on the
brain, nothing could be done. My daughter and I sat watching him, he died midafternoon.
I have kept a journal almost every day, soon started titling it by weeks. Onto week 25 now.
My heart goes out to you and to everyone going through this.It sounds like a good idea to keep a journal. I’m sure it must help to be able to put all your thoughts down on paper , I imagine it would be quite therapeutic. Think I’ll try it myself x
heart.
So not an option for me.People in this community give great advice even on practical matters and when they share some positive experiences I’m sure it can give us all hope. X