I must have been a terrible person in my last life I found out my dad died 3 days before my brother died in November 2023 and before I could get my head round that my fiancé passed away in April 2024 I lost my sister, my nan and my mum within 6 months of each other in 2012. I really don’t know what to do it’s not fair and I don’t know how to carry on now I have no one left
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I’m really struggling to cope with. my grief and I have noone else to talk to I feel bad about talking to his family and it was having to move house has made k worse there is no memories in this house and I had no choice in moving. I also had no input about his funeral because his parents took away my next of kin status even though we had been together for 11 years and I have the inquest still to be heard
Hello @Spot,
I can see you’re new to the community. I am so sorry for the losses you have been through - it’s so much to cope with. I just wanted to let you know that I merged your two threads so you can get the support you need.
You are not alone. You may wish to connect with @Rachie1 who has also sadly experienced many losses, including her fiancé. She wrote a thread here recently sharing her story:
You might also find these Sue Ryder resources helpful:
Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Please keep reaching out and take care,
Seaneen
Thank you and all I can say is you just stumble from one day to the next and I hardly know what day it is my partner was my full time career and now I’m here alone having to pay strangers to help me but I am here if you need to put your feelings into words
Hello Spot. I can empathize with what you are saying. I lost both my parents within hours of one another 25 years ago. Fifteen years ago I lost my brother at 54. Thirteen years ago I lost my dear husband to cancer. Last year, 2024, I lost my remaining brother in May and the hardest if all, I lost my beautiful daughter in October. It makes you feel so alone at times. I have a wonderful and loving partner, and my son who is struggling with his mental health as well as the loss of his sister who was his best friend. Please know you aren’t alone, and message any time you want to. When you have little or no family left it can be so hard, and this site can be a lifeline x
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Thank you so much it’s just turned midnight here and I haven’t slept for 4 so My body justs crashes anywhere but I am disabled so I’m always at home and I’m writing this now because I have literally heard something that would make us both laugh and I turned all the way to his side of the bed and saw it empty again
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I’m so sorry. If you want a chat buddy, I’m here. Recently lost my mum but I have my siblings and dad. I’m struggling too, but I can be there…