That’s so true but it’s very hard when you’ve been married a long time been with my husband since I was 15 years old married for 55 years 
and lost him this October lm in south Wales to my daughter lives in brdgend
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Thank you
To me the pain is double because 2023 it was my daughter,2024 it was my husband.
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Yes, life can be very cruel.
Which is why we all have to make the best of our time here.
You can do it.
Look deep inside yourself and you will find the strength to carry on.
Both your daughter and your hubby will be proud of you until you are reunited with them again.
Take your time and shine for them.
They love you.
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My own husband of 5 years died when I was 7 months pregnant. What hurts the most is in our African society the family of the guy takes everything from you in the name of he is our brother. I couldn’t cry I was in a dream, everything was surreal, I couldn’t believe the man who bathed me , help me wear socks and shoes , escort me to work, showed up at every antenatal visits and spoiled my cravings was gone. A man who fasted and prayed for our unborn son was gone just woke up dead. I stared at his lifeless body in disbelief and held his sutured body in the morgue. My soulmate just like that gone in the blink of an eye. I went back to work night shift 3 weeks after his passing walking 3 miles to work everyday. All I can say is we are suffering my husband, I really wish you were alive. If you can hear or see us from heaven, me and your son are really suffering.
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I’m so sad today, closer to Christmas more sadness I feel. My dad is here and I decorated house, I wanted to make it it special for my dad but today I woke up at 3 am. The sadness I feel the grief is just unbelievable, first Christmas without my Marek. He would usually wear a Santa Clouse hat those days, I cried so much today already 
I feel to emotionally tired.
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I had to go shopping for a Christmas card for my daughter. When I spotted the ones to ‘my adorable wife’, ‘my darling wife’, ‘ my one and only’, I had a massive sobbing breakout and ran from the shop. These grief triggers are so debilitating. Utterly heart breaking.
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I know how you feel I was buying Christmas cards when I saw cards saying to the one I love it set me off as it got me crying it’s been nearly 2 years this January coming since my beloved passed 
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I understand how you feel. I’ve avoided the shops as much as possible this Christmas, haven’t sent any cards or put up decorations. My partner died suddenly 3 months ago. I felt the same after my mother passed away 23 years ago. I used to get really upset at seeing. Mothers Day cards.
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I’m so sad too,my husband and I used to cook for less fortunate,drug addicts and homeless people every Christmas.I don’t feel like celebrating Christmas anymore.
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I lost my wife in August 2024 after a short illness that came out of the blue,for 6 months life was a blur ,deep depression, sleepless nights,nightmares.
I tried everything, anti depressants, grief counselling,I couldn’t, wouldn’t accept she wasn’t coming back,nothing anyone could say or do eased the pain the lonlieness, my best friend couldn’t be replaced, then shock became reality, she was gone.I had gone from a confident positive individual into a complete wreck,unable to make decisions, confused,forgetful. Christmas 2026 has been a nightmare to cope with,I just want to run away and escape, but I don’t know what I’m trying to escape from.If it wasn’t for my 4 young grandchildren who i love dearly I’m not sure i still would want to be here.
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Hi
I know exactly how you feel. I lost my husband 4 years ago only 7 weeks after a cancer diagnosis.
I’ve tried everything you’re told to do but nothing can lessen the loneliness and sense of worthlessness.
I often think why carry on as there is no reason to. I feel as if I don’t belong anywhere now and am not importance to anyone ….
Thinking of you
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I feel the same, my life is so pointless now, it hit me today only having to cook for myself, I have never felt so lonely in all my life, i wish someone could tell me it gets easier but i know it wont, god life is so cruel.
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I know exactly what you are feeling my partner passed away six weeks before Christmas 23 and I’ve got no friends or family and because Ann always did everything I have struggled everyday having to learn to cook is the hardest thing most days I can’t be bothered to cook just for myself, the lonlenest is the hardest thing to cope with after Ann passed away I tried twice to join her and I ended up in the mental health hospital, after two weeks of counselling and being told it gets easier I tried to believe them but I’m not sure if it ever does you eventually learn to cope with things and I just take it a day at a time and the help I’ve had from the Sue Ryder web site has been helping me a lot
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Today marked another emotionally challenging day,emptying our holiday retreat that we purchased in 2019 when my wife was diagnosed with an illness that at the time was not told how serious it could be long term but serious enough to be unable to secure travel insurance, we had travelled extensively on holidays together and the Pembrokeshire Coast was the perfect Sanctuary for us,sadly,after her passing in August 2024 I have been unable to bring myself to stay for any period and 2025 just became too much,so today,said goodbye to another memory,our beautiful holiday home, sold.So emotional and distraught, fortunately, my son was there assisting and was so understanding that he simply let me say goodbye alone.
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So sorry for your loss. The loneliness that we all feel is so debilitating. Its something you can never shed. Its truly awful
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It’s a pain that doesn’t go away,but no painkillers can cure.
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So true
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I understand how you feel. My husband and I loved Weymouth and the surrounding areas and we always planned to retire there. All our future snatched away, he was 64 far too young. I don’t think I will ever visit Weymouth again, I couldn’t bear it without him. Its been very recent for me and I’m still trying to get through a minute at a time, I really don’t know what to do without him, I loved him so much. He loved me and told me so every day. One day at a time in a world without them.
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I can relate to that, my lovely partner died suddenly 3 months ago and I’ve gone from being happy and confident to a total wreck. My memory is poor, my thinking muddled and I m gripped with terrible anxiety at times. I still can’t sleep properly. I feel old, alone and vulnerable. Some days I don’t think I can go on.
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