I lost my Nan

Losing a grandparent
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Hi I lost my Nan a week ago and I have been struggling. she was 90 amd I know that I was lucky to have her around for all that time. but I really miss her, I feel relieved as she was in pain but most of me just wants her back…

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Hello @sam18,

Thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you’re feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your nan. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,
Seaneen

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Sorry for your loss, i recently lost my Grandma, she was 89 and was struggling mainly with depression, when she died it was a massive shock as the year previous we got told by a doctor she had the healthiest heart he had seen. It is the most painful feeling, i couldnt attend work, i cried all the time, i have two young children to look after and i felt so so heartbroken. It hurt me so much but i was in abit of denial, i went to see her in the chapel of rest the day before my 30th birthday and tjat broke me for 2 weeks, i didnt stop crying, the fact she was lying there and wasnt waking up it made everything a reality. I am so so sorry for your loss, my only advice is, do not be afriad to cry, seek comfort from those around you, and as hard as it is think your Grandma wouldn’t want you to be sad and upset, i felt the same and even when you think oh they are 89 or 90 they’ve lived their live, they are a massive part of yours and thats why it hurts so much!! Take care of yourself and surround yourself with people who care, sending lots of love

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thank you for your kind message amd sorry for your loss of your Nan. sounds like she was very important to you too.:heart:
i have been looking after my Grandad and in process of arranging her funeral, its really hard. Nan ised to love singing and was in choirs. As a girl I used to go with her, have sleepovers, Nan and Grandads was my safe space.
I really love her and miss her greatly. You are right just because she was 90 means that she has been in my life so much more . Just taking a day at a time