I know … but eventually you will come to acceptance that hes not coming back … but dont think that you still wont be sad cos you will … you will grieve what you lost and wish he was here for you … its just baby steps. We all do it at different rates and no right or wrong is there … xxxx
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Can i ask why are you all having a separate conversations on my post when it has nothing to do with what i have wrote in thae first place???
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I guess it has just progressed from when you were talking ? Your conversation was 27 days ago …
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I know we are all going through a very tough tume and i am particularly finding life very difficult all i want to do is go to bed at night and not wake up but i was just asking because im getting lots of emails with everyones different conversations that are nothing to do with my post ?
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I have no support i have had to deal with this all on my own. I have asked for help but can not get any bereavement counseling for 7 months as there is a waiting list so alone hurting and heartbroken
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Well some people are new ? And actually i dunno how you start a new topic tbh ? X
Actually if your part of any conversation all the responses come up …i think that’s the point of having “group” chats …
Have you tried contacting MIND they do counselling or ask your GP if anything else available. I found a local grief cafe to attend, which helps everyone is there for different reasons, not all widows. It might be worth asking if anything else is available. It is a lonely journey we are all on, but you will have bad days and then the odd good day. I dont have friends to call they all disappeared. i have joined some lical women’s groups where i meet up for coffee, and we all talk about whatever issue we are having.
I know what you are saying here, its only been 4 months for me and i really dont see any purpose any more
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Hi, I’m new on here. I’ve not posted before, but i feel your pain. Lost the love of my life 4 weeks ago and feel so empty. I don’t know how you’ve coped for 4 months ! So sorry for your loss.
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@Deb5 yea I have accepted he’s not coming back but it’s so difficult isn’t it . It makes me so anxious when I get the thought in my head that I won’t ever see him again- that’s the hard bit . As for anxiety, well I live with it all the time now .
Did you see your grandson btw ?
I saw mine !! My son and DIL brought him over dads for an hour or so on Weds. he’s adorable 
he gives me hope there can still be moments of joy xxx
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@Polarbear7966 i read your original post and it was very general. I think it’s reasonable on a public forum for the conversation to evolve. We are all trying to deal with our grief in the only way we can .
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Aw did you thats great ! Yeh i did. I went over last Saturday for 4 hours. It was truly magical to see new life 
babys are lovely arent they ? So innocent ! Shes busy with baby but will go over in a week or so to give her some help … she cant drive for 6 weeks cos she has a caesarian …
I know its just hard without their love isnt it … im finding it hard. Its always hard at times like easter , xmas etc - big occasions 
xx
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I haven’t if im honest it has been a complete nightmare of which i wish i could wake up from and see my partner again. Im so sorry for your loss also i really do know how you are feeling at this time. Im here if you wish to chat x
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@Polarbear7966
I’m sure you do. I would like to chat, I think I need it, especially to someone who’s a bit further down the road…
I’m at week 36 today. It’s lonely even in a room full of people, but I find things to do. I’ve just got a flexible working job as an exam invigilator to make me go out of the house more as I gave up work last April to look after Rob and spend quality time doing things together, he passed much sooner than was expected. I’m only 61, so I can’t even claim my pension. I’ve found doing things out of my normal have helped me, I do hula hoop fitness, tai chi, and joined a local womens group where age and circumstances are all different. My children are there if I need them, but they have busy working lives and have my grandchildren to look after through the loss of their dad and grandad. Take baby steps and maybe try a new activity.
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@Deb5 yes he was so sweet and content. They stayed about an hour and a half or so . Things were fine between us , so I don’t understand what went wrong actually. Never mind hopefully a blip !
Yes I can’t stand being without Baz by my side . In 20 years we were together every day , apart from once when he went to look after his mum for 3 weeks. Other than this , we were together every day . I miss just being with him , even times when we did nothing together we’re never boring . I’m so lonely xxx
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@Punto
Hi, 1 year younger than me. No financial help either. I’ve got my 19-year-old at home still and 2 grandaughters from my daughter who died (long story), but they live with their father and are pretty stable. I’ve thought of volunteering but haven’t the heart to put into anything just yet. I’m still finding getting up in the morning is hard enough. Thank you for contacting me, that’s very good of you. So sorry for your loss too.
Yeh same as me. I did everything with my husband too … leaves a massive hole doesnt it ? The thing that bugs me though is if my husband had gone to drs earlier he would still be here … it wasnt incurable what he had … that goes around in my head alot atm … why didnt he go when i told him so many times to go and he just ignored me why did he leave me in this awful damn world alone i dont think he meant to but he was stubborn and wouldnt listen …
So pleased you got to see your grandson what they calling him ? Xx
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We are all here if you need to chat, cry or scream. Each one of us is dealing with loss and grief in different ways. I was lucky that we talked about my future alone during Robs last few weeks. I promised that I would be strong for the kids and do new thing’s to make new memories for my grandchildren who all talk about grandad to me. I’ve gone away on a 2 night break alone and have other holidays booked some with family and one as a solo traveller. My children have encouraged me to try and do things I wouldn’t have done as a couple to get me out of the house.
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