Hi Chris 1948
Yes true love……known as unconditional love…….
Xx
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PS you and me both
Xx
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Exactly u said it all, how yr life changes. I find it just becomes an existence.
As u r all alone without the 1 u love.
Take care everybody on here.
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Can’t agree more @chris1948 about rather have had that love and feel like this than never have had it.
I think one of the main reasons we are all on this forum is the level of love we had for our partners. If we hadn’t loved that deeply it wouldn’t be as difficult now would it?
Sending love to all. xxx
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I totally agree with your comment about couples not knowing what they are in for. We had talked about one of us inevitably being left on our own and thought we would be ready if it happened. Nothing could have been further from the truth. When Bev was first diagnosed, a year ago today, with stage 4 Peritoneal Cancer I was still optimistic that she could recover. Ten weeks later she was gone and initially I was coping but as the months have passed I started to realise just what I have lost. She was my reason for living and though I am lucky to have two brilliant, supportive children and two lovely granddaughters plus a network of family and friends it can never make up for the love that she gave me for nearly 50 years. I am doing ok with counselling and keeping myself busy but the winter nights are the worst time of the year. Roll on the spring when I can tend to her lovely garden and her allotment.
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I know exactly what you mean…i cope because i have to 5 weeks since Robert died a 58 year old man nothing wrong with him.some days are better than others.today is a bad day and i have to meet up with 3 friends who didn’t cone to his funeral. I really cannot be bothered. Why do i feel angry with people who have done nothing wrong .this is just the worst of tines im hoping tomorrow will be better
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My family and I have all been through the angry, irritable bit and we still do. It’s six weeks today for us. If you really can’t face meeting up with your friends then don’t do it. Don’t push yourself too much. I’m sure they’d understand. I’m so sorry for your loss. Big cuddle to you x. Jean
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Went to meet up with my friends and to tell the truth im glad i went…although they were all talking about their oartners and i felt jealous its not fair.and im not a jealous person…just glad to get home and feel tired now…i kn8w they are nice people but just felt a bit sad
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Hi All
Yes that’s the way I feel
I feel like shouting to them to shut up…… but of course it’s not their fault
So answer don’t go out ……… easier not to watch everyone ‘seemingly’ happy
TV neither ……… everyone happy
Radio Christmas songs
So at moment cleaning house don’t know why just always give the house a really good clean before every Christmas ………
Love to all
Xx
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Having a bad evening. Can’t see the point. Not looking forward to anything. I really feel like I can’t cope without him. Too much time left to be without him. I just want Christmas gone! I know lots of you feel the same. It’s horrific.
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Jean8
I know exactly how you feel, its 4 weeks tomorrow, i feel like ive nothing left, no hope just an empty void never to be filled.
Sam
Xx
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Hi Jean
I so understand how you feel
I am on my own at Christmas and life is awful for me too.
9 wks now and it gets worse.
Miss John so much. All the plans we had and the holidays and days out we talked about.
The plans for the bungalow we had just moved into 2 wks before he died suddenly.
How do we carry on without the one we love especially at this time of year.
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@MemberD72 @Shelley50 i don’t know. Everything I’m seeing tonight is upsetting me. I can’t bear the thought of life without him. How do we do it? How are we EXPECTED to do it. Sending big cuddles to you both.
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Hi shelly, i did say i wld say hello 2 u on Christmas day. & I hope u r not finding things 2 hard.
Much love Paulinem1
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Hi Pauline
Good to hear from you. Did post a message early this morning
I hope you are managing to get through the day. I am finding it very difficult. I think it would have been easier if I had been with people. But sadly No.
I had been feeling stronger and more positive but not so today - 10 wks tomorrow
I have driven to Mum and Dad’s graves about an hr and half drive away. As havent managed to go before as not well enough. And needed to get out.
I am there now and feel a bit better.
Going to try to find a coffee somewhere and a toilet hopefully
I hope life is a bit easier for you.
Look after yourself
Be in touch soon
Love xx
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Shelly i dient see yr post earlier,
Shelly u r stronger than u think u got out the door, well done i went 2 olivers grave friday. Im On my own 2 day, then out of the blue i got invited by 2 different friends as they diden’t realise i was on my own 2 day.
But im Staying @ home.
Shelly i really understand how u r feeling, as when oliver died i told u i was on my own @ Christmas.
Its is very early days for u. But u will get through it. Xx
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Hi All
We are all here for everyone
A truly utterly difficult day
Stay strong
Xx
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Pauline
Thank you and just got back but cried all the way there and back.
Really dont feel hungry now but will open champagne.
Who else cares what I do.
Felt so determined to get through this holiday so I could get on with my life in the New Year but today has hit me harder than I ever thought.
You sound a lot stronger than me and I am so pleased for you. You sound so caring and honest.
Love to you xx
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Shelly i was in the place u r in, when my husband died, & my friend said 2 me u r so strong & i said im not, i was laughing on the outside but dying on the inside.
It just takes time 2 ajust 2 a terrible lose.
Which is the love of yr life.
Take care. X
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