Im in a very bad place

Dutchman
Its not wired if it makes you feel close to your wife , i sometimes think im going mad i talk to my husband every day in home, car and at his graveside ,i sometimes think is this normal ? But i dont care if its not normal as we need to do this to feel closer to our loved ones , 2 yrs on and i still cry every day i spend as much time as possible with my grand kids they sleeping over tonight plenty of cuddles , take care

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Colin was cremated and me and the children have scattered him in the garden he loves.
A couple of days later i was sat talking to him as i still do now and realised, where could his family and friends go to say hi, i felt so guilty. There is now a space i have bought where Colin was cremated for everyone to go to if they want. I didn’t think about the act of scattering him in the garden, not that i would object to people coming whenever they wanted but i knew they wouldnt want to invade as they put it. So now we meet up there, sit and talk about anything and everything. We have a motobike weather vane, plants he took a shine to and photos.
I was sat there not too long ago when this appeared in the clouds.

Am i over thinking, being over sensitive or does this look like to motorbike?

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It does to me.
Hugs Jo xx

Hi Nicky.
When my wife passed we had her ashes interred in our local cemetery with a headstone erected,we did keep a small vial of her ashes back and planted them in a planter together with her favourite lilies in our garden,so I know at least she is always here with me.

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Hi Ron11,
What a lovely idea.
It did cross my mind to do something similar but the children loved the thought of him being here so whenever they need to chat, they come along and we have a good old natter and a rant ( can’t forget that) at the world.
They know they can come anytime of the day or night.
I have been out there in the dead of night once or twice when i can’t sleep.
Nicky

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