Im in a very bad place

Hi Gill 9

Sending lots of love n hugs, know exactly what its like , be kind to yourself. Grief arrives sometimes when we least expect it to. take care. We are all friends here xxx

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Hello all. Grief and loneliness stinks, doesnā€™t it

You have a reasonable day and this is wiped out by a flood of memories that remind us of how much we miss them and how alone we are, never mind how many friends we have, we are alone in the end.

I took myself off today to one of our favourite seaside spots, had every intention of walking along the front, till I felt so alone and missed her company. Went back to the car. Felt miserable.

Itā€™s been just over a year now since she died and I only hope that things get better. Itā€™s so easy when youā€™re a couple just going along, planning, cozy in each otherā€™s company, wanting not much more than that. And then everything in the world changes and nothings the same ever again.

Peter

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Couldnā€™t agree more Peter. 23 weeks since I suddenly lost the love of my life. Thought I was doing ok over the weekend and had kept myself busy. Then out of the blue today it hit me all over again, as if it was day one. Been overwhelmed most of the day which has left me exhausted.
Canā€™t get my head around the future- there doesnā€™t seem to be one. Like you I am extremely lucky with good family and friends, but thatā€™s not what I want or need.
Hopefully tomorrow will be better x

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Hello @jody

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Hello @jody

I suppose what affects me more than ever now is the emptiness of the hours.

As a couple we were quite happy just to fill the day up with each other. Iā€™ve decided on the cinema tonight but Iā€™m not happy just waiting around to go out, itā€™s a couple of hours of nothing, of a quiet room and being alone.

Bridget was fully taken care of in her care home and wanted for nothing. Because she had dementia the day probably passed by in relative contentment. Itā€™s me who now bares the awfulness of being lonely and miserable.

I could say that 4 years in the home prepared me for the eventual day when she died but thereā€™s a difference between her in the world and now she isnā€™t

Peter

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Hello Peter
I dont think there is anyway that makes it easier. I am 21 weeks in on Sunday, and everyday is a struggle.
I am lonely sad fed up of live.
I try not to look into the future as all I see is emptiness and lonilness not the best picture.
Sendung hugs Jo xxx

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I am like you and donā€™t look into the future.

Hope you feeling a bitter better after your fall.

Big hug xx

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I am ty Rose i have a massive bruise on my hip and leg one on my elbow snd shoulder. But thankfully nothing was broken.
Hugs Jo xxx

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Hi @RoseGarden and @jevncute

Iā€™m going to make you suits from bobble wrap for you, and I think there was another one as well
Oh yes it was @Rajay, she fell too.

Iā€™ll have to make 3

Please take care all of you

Love and hugs
Liz x x