Thank you so much …its the constant anxiety that wears me down …sending love Sue
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Try Brad Yates tapping bereavement on u tube. Type in and follow. It’s calming. Also try a meditation on u tube. This may help. Xx
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I hope you find some peace in that, I think it’s shocking that they give you this report that you don’t understand and no one is willing to help explain it, why should we have to beg for somebody to explain what happened to our loved ones xx
Thank you for such a lovely hopeful message. I believe this too
Thank you
Christina 7
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Hi Nel yes why do bad things happen to good people,my wife Judith was a good person and look what happened to her.I hope everything you say comes true.You do not offend me Nel. Michael x
Hi yes I agree with you about a vaccine for cancer,after all the money they have had over the years still no cure.I am one of those left behind after losing my dear wife Judith to this eveil thing and my life is now over.My wife went through hell during the last 2 months of her life and I ahd to watch her suffering. Love Michael x
Hi Tony thank you for your message,well done on changing your bed ,no easy task.I do a little housework and attend the garden.I went to church a few times after Judith passed away and lit candles for her.This cursed thing has ruined families. I am going to be 77 next month a bit further down the road than you Tony. Much love Michael x
Hello Michael
I try to keep the place as June would. I make the bed before going downstairs Michael as June always did. I bought a sleeping bag but so far have remained within the sheets so far.
Who knows whether I will be a regular Church attender. I don’t know but it just seems right at the moment Michael and there are supportive people there which I crave. I need all the help I can get.
Judith will be watching over you Michael as I believe June is for me. One day we will be reunited Michael but until then we struggle on. Take care. Tony
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Thank you for reply . It is awful trying to exist without our loved ones I am still very angry with the way the whole cancer treatment goes.chris had to wait 12 weeks for his scan after treatment . In this time I believe the cancer was growing and spreading through his body. Surely they should do a scan straight after treatment and then a follow up . I miss my husband so much as you do your wife this is an awful live we have to exist in . Take care x
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Hi yes me too still very angry,my wife Judith was missed they said it was just a water infection ,it turned out to be stage 4 bladder cancer,she was eaten away inside.Spread as well. Will never clap NHS ever again.Chrisand Judith were victims of the failings of the NHS ,too much time was given to Covid. Michael x
Hi Tony yes I make the bed ,leave it for a while to air,under orders from Judith.I am trying to look after her home the best I can.I like you do hope that June and Judith are watching over us and seeing how horrendous we are suffering without them. Much love Michael x
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I’m having a bad morning. I had another disturbed sleep. I’m trying not to rely on a sleeping tablet every night. I am upset writing this message. I’m trying to keep busy the washer is on and I’m going to do some ironing later to try and keep busy. I have a constant headache and my neck aches.
It’s been weeks since I had a visit from my side of the family. I have had to travel to see my elderly Mother a 50 mile round trip every week since she left after June’s death. we have no family of our own so I feel like I’m just being left. I am losing weight weekly - now 3st in 10 weeks. Last Monday was the same for some reason. Sorry for the down message all. Tony
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Oh Tony these bad days hit us like a ton of bricks don’t they?
Well done for getting those chores going this morning and for planning some ironing later. It all feels pointless to me sometimes but I do believe that we human beings need structure in our lives and a sense of purpose, so do keep going with a few different chores each day.
I’m a health professional by trade and I can’t help being concerned about the amount of weight you’ve lost Tony. It’s about 4 pounds a week which isn’t good or healthy. Could you please consider seeing your gp and asking for some food supplement drinks while you don’t feel like eating? Having poor nutrition makes our mood, pain and other physical symptoms much worse.
With love, Sophie x
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Hiya Michael lives crap a worry about my son all passed with cancer all were males he doesn’t drink or smoke but worry still there as his dad didn’t smoke our drink it’s consistent worry I what him to have a long life lv annie x
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Hiya tony we do loss weight can’t be arsed to cook lost 3stone since john passed can’t see the point never feel hungry lv annie x
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Hello Sophie 26
Thank you for your response. Washing done ironing done. Next load of washing in the machine. I have settled down again now with something to take my mind off matters. I have mentioned my weight loss which continues week on week. I’m eating a lot less and would still be classed obese on the BMI scale although so have not recently checked. I feel drained emotionally and physically. I’m existing on a ready meal a day. A neighbour has been very good since June passed and provided me e with weekly meals but I know these are going to stop. I have repaid with flowers and foodstuffs in return.
My June was a SRN for 34 years until medical retirement for her MS. I know she will be concerned about my weight loss and emotional state. I am expecting a couple of phone calls today from health professionals so at least that will take up at one more time.
Thank you for your concern and advice which I will do. Tony
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Hello Annie11
I’m never hungry either. I wanted to lose weight for years but not this way. I exist on ready meals which are much smaller than what we had when June was here. Other than that it’s toast and cereal. No fruit and very few vegetables in the house now. Just cannot be bothered. Eat and wash up. Job done. Take care. Tony
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I’m the same can’t be bothered to eat went from 10stone to 8stone I live on toast cereal no veg tony my diet is terrible but can’t be bothered lv annie x
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Hiya shines food is not a priority. My meals are crap snack rather than eat lv va annie x
Hi Tony please do not say sorry ,you have every reason to be down.I lay awake for ages last night as I do most nights thinking about Judith,I needed to say so much to her but ran out of time.I expect you were the same with June.I hardly get any family to visit me ,do not know why,I have 2 good friends that pop in now and again.I am worried that you are still losing weight.20 weeks today for me now I can hardly believe it.I did not think I would survive this long. Michael x