I know people say awful things and they just dont care thats the bottom line … 
they don’t understand the pain we are in at all … if your heart is broken you cant just move on like that !! Honest to god ! X
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I really don’t think people understand if they have never walk in our shoes. Because the most common thing on this forum is our shoes, because everybody on this forum feels the same lost. You don’t just lose your husband, you lose your future that you both would have had. It will be two years on 16 September when I lost my mark. He would have been 66 at Christmas. Life look like it’s not worth living some time. I think it the loneliness which is hard to take.
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There is not a place that caters for people that’s not old when they lose their partner am 63 and I went to a meeting and they was all over 80s. Some time you just need a friend that understand what you are going through. This forum is very very good because sometimes you feel like you’re going out your mind and you look on here actually no I’m not they’re all the same on here. Which make you feel like your not losing your mind
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I’m 44 and it’s been 11 weeks for me he was 52, and there doesn’t seem many people who are younger it does seem mainly older which I suppose isn’t a bad thing
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Sorry for your loss. Think it a mix of ages on here. I was with my hubby for 47 years. Married 42. Just keep posting and reading how others are coping. It some time help me. So I don’t think I’m going mad.
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Yeh very true @Trace10 does make you realise its not just you but others feel the same xx
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I,m 62 and was with my gorgeous fantastic beautiful wife sue for 22years and would have been married for 7 years this year.got a lot of help from this forum.was told to try cruse and never again will i have anything to do with them .lady from cruse on the phone did nothing but waffle eventually i just the phone down.she was so insensitive i was in tears for a couple of hours
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Had a very similar experience from counselling, which did nothing for me. It was on the phone wasn’t face-to-face.covid 2021. No interaction They don’t know you you’re just somebody on the other end of the phone. Asked me to try going for walks to get out the house which I was already doing. It something you have to go through and you’re very lucky if you are the same person you was when you was with your husband, it changes you in different ways. I think cancer is a bastard that robs so many good people.
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Hi @Sah28, have you heard of way, widowed and young, eligible to those who are under the age of 50. I was 47 when i lost my LH 10 months ago. Amongst other things they be able to help with local meet ups. Sending hugs xx
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I’ll have a look at that thank you
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Hi @BobY
Yes I totally get that, some people say the most pathetic things! it really annoys me, It really ceases to amaze me at how people can come out with the most insincere sort of things, I have had the worst few days this week, and it’s coming up nearly 6 months since I lost my partner. 
Think that’s what I might have to do get an animal to keep me going, Life just isn’t the same.
As at the minute life seems very bleak, dull and very depressing atm.
Thought I would send a message of support anyway. 
Susie. x
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My heart goes out to you Bob, I lost my husband 7 months ago and if your anything like me the pain is so tremendous sometimes I just want to die, I have two dogs and yes they make me get out of bed in the morning and in a way give my life a meaning, when people ask me how I’m doing I just say I’m getting there, if only they knew that behind the smile I’m completely and utterly heartbroken but they will never know until it happens to them, take one day at a time is the only advice I can give and know that’s she’s never left you she’s with you always x
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Thank you xx
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Totally get it. My husband died 5 months ago and I am broken. My mother 3 days after commented that I should have had a financial plan. A month ago she sent me a message telling me I should sell my dog so I can take more work etx I just cut her out and now rely only on friends. It is a very lonely ride at times but all we can do is accept it and try to grow our lives very slowly around the massive wound.
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Ha…really sell your dog ! Omg … your only companion ! Think not !! Xx
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I also had it recently, how long are you going to take to get over this! I said also I will NEVER get over it I just have to learn to cope with living through this nightmare, I was in love with my partner, he was the best thing to ever have happened to me in my life. Next time someone says something to me to that affect I think I will bloody rip their head off. 
That’s very insensitive, it really annoys me, what people actually say, Why people even have audacity to even say these things is beyond me.
Much love to you all who is going through this agonising and painful time, I know I am suffering immensely atm, went and laid on my bed earlier and sobbed and sobbed, missing my partner so much. Loved him to pieces. Life is Wicked, Life is cruel.
Susie
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When my daughter aderlaide heard someone who was a close friend say sues dead get over it and you should be over it now.my daughter went ballistic over it.sent myself back in to a depression.
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Yeh well you know what ! Theyre just wallys basically x
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Life is cruel, I just hate people at the moment if it’s not their insensitive comments it’s the pity look. Sometimes you need a good cry xx
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