It’s been 102 days since my boyfriend died suddenly, and I’ve only just been able to say “My boyfriend died”. There is no way to behave, you have to do whatever you feel you need to. In the early weeks I would cry anywhere and everywhere, people should understand and if they don’t then that’s their issue. We are all going through a really big deal here, it’s not something to be trivialised, so look after number one.
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I joined when I suppose I needed to talk to someone especially somebody who understood. People really do understand because they have lost someone and are in this strange, unwanted reality.
There is no right or wrong ways to grieve.
Crying and nothing coming out happens to so many people.
You have started by telling us about your girlfriend, your dogs.
In your own time and in your own way.
Take care,
Rose
I read something today:
How can you truly know what it’s like to be alone until you have felt complete?
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that is beautiful and so true x
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We are two of a kind, I never imagined myself in this situation having had a busy life with my husband of sixty years. I have no words of comfort to offer, no answer to the misery and loneliness except to say, I know how it feels and it is bloody awful x
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I am alone and no longer socialise with anyone except on line. My dog and the fact that I am lucky enough to have a home and a garden keep me going. The misery and loneliness do overwhelm me at times which is understandable after 60 years of marriage. I think I can’t go on, but I do go on and must therefore try and make the best of it. We here on this topic are united by our situation and I wish you all well x
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It is so lonely how can we socalise. When all we do is cry. I have never been so lonely in my entire life. There seems such little point of carrying on. I hate the quietness of the house. I dont even go to bed i lay on the sofa xxxx
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Hard isn’t it ? a home is just a cell really. My only interaction is a few friends and the nurses at the hospital.
Awww bless you Keith i am really dreading the dark nights. Xxx
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One of my fostered children died aged 13, and three weeks later I was on the phone to my mother and I got choked up, and her response was " Aren’t you over that yet?"
Just one example of how people respond to other people’s grief.
My partner died two months ago and I am unanchored and dithering.
Not thought about it as of yet, last thing on my mind I guess. The year will almost be over and besides hospital visits, there won’t be much to show for it. I need a break from life, but that isn’t easy either right now for me.
So very sorry.
Sending you a big hug
Rose xx
People and family are sympathetic at first but that doesn’t last long. I am so lonely all the time. I never thought this would be my life. Love and hugs Jo xxxx
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We all the same, lost and searching in life. I question a lot of things and I don’t know what my purpose in life is now. You will read or relate to so many post on here. It’s something we all share unfortunately.
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It is Keith I am sorry you are in this group. I wish none of us where. When did you lose you wife my husband Gra died just over 4 weeks ago. Xxx
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lost my mum, no partner
Sorry my mistake. I lost my mum 6 years ago i know how hard that is. Xx
Like so many not over it!
I bet its so hard. Everyone on here is so supportive. I hope you find it as helpful as i do. Xxx