Hi Arvia , good luck on your return to work hope all goes well , went back on phased return having been off 10 months like you was dreading it wasn’t as bad as expected , if you need to ask for help 
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@Martyn2 i will be thinking of you tomorrow on your first anniversary of losing your beautiful wife Sue. Have you got anything planned for tomorrow/today. Sending you strength , big hugs and love xx
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Hazel.1966 just having a quiet day.taking my daughter out for a meal and cuddling up with Teddy and George on the sofa with me watching one of our favourite films east is east .thankyou x
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Hi all,
Thank you everyone I feel the same… I’m 17 months in, and I feel totally exhausted all the time.
Grief is so utterly exhausting and debilitating.
It’s actually getting harder for me, and my motivation for everything is almost nil … Doing anything takes so much energy. And my brain simply cannot hold facts. This has got so bad the last few weeks. I work full time, and I’m finding it such a struggle at the moment. Everything seems to have worsened 100 fold since the new year.
Love and strength for another day everyone 
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Hi this is my first time on this platform, im so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 10 months ago and i too just want to sleep. Im so tired to the point i was relieved when i got ill recently and had 2 weeks of work so i could sleep. Apparently its normal. I just sleep and cant be bothered with anything, i dont put makeup on , i only wear my scuffy clothes . I just have no interest. My family are amazing and keep me going. Please dont beat yourself up
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Hello Nipper I’m so sorry for your loss I lost my husband 9 months ago also I’m the same exhausted getting to the stage I’ve got to push myself out of bed just don’t want to get up. I too can’t be bothered with makeup and it’s an effort to get dressed up I’m in my scruff most days, I have a good family and as much as I love them they just can’t replace Pat my husband I do try to push myself to do things but it’s very hard. You take care
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Thank you for your reply, its crazy death is all around us yet you feel like its only you. I appreciate you taking the time to reply , you take care too, sending you love
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Hi Rockstar
This is my 1st time on here. I lost my husband in November. He lost his battle with cancer. I looked after him at home. I know that feeling of sleeping but not restful. Im so tired. I do have medical issues myself. I have PPMS so that causes fatigue which doesnt help. I feel so lost. I end up falling asleep during the day. Doesnt make me feel better. Today it was like a punch to the stomach. I was watching someone on tv, can’t even remember what it was, and I suddenly realised I would never see him again
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Hello myjica sorry for your loss and do hope you start to feel better in yourself grief is a terrible thing which everyone in this forum is going through one way or other. I also have the same thoughts in my mind as you as time is going by I can’t believe I won’t see him again it really upsets me as it’s so hard to imagine life without him, you take care and a afternoon nap won’t hurt you probably do you some good💔
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Thank you. It’s really weird because you know there are others going through grief, but at the same time, it feels like you’re the only one, and nobody understands. I’m glad i found this forum, I thought I was going mad. It does feel good and helps knowing that if I rant, or same something that doesn’t make sense, there are others that fully understand
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So very true been able to open upto people going through the samething as yourself does help take care
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Ever since I lost my Mum in March last year I have been feeling absolutely exhausted and have lost all motivation for anything.
I’m in a job I hate and it’s been a real challenge getting up in the mornings to attend.
My sleep doesn’t seem bad as I am able to get to sleep and sleep through just fine but I never feel refreshed no matter how much I get. I just want to sleep all the time! It’s almost like my mind is trying to avoid the harsh reality that she’s gone.
Also I find that I’m always aching and I totally get what you mean about walking through treacle and I feel like there’s a massive wall in the way!
The physical symptoms of grief definitely took me by surprise! I have been so worried for my health cause I’ve felt that rotten!
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So sorry for the loss of your mum Jess its true the physical side of grieving is horrible I began to think I was ill after I lost my husband because all these side effects my body just aching all the time haven’t any energy and trying to get out this tunnel I’m stuck in as I’m finding it very hard to accept he’s gone butcthis forum definitely help so take care of yourself
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I ended up with extreme fatigue and pain after my dad died. I was pretty much bedridden for months. Then I got diagnosed with fibromylagia.
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Completely exhausted my friend, lost my partner, Jeff on 30 Dec 2023 and been a roller coaster - thought was getting better, but after funeral ‘all’ started again. Completely exhausted, yet cannot sleep, hungry but cannot eat. Have to start that ‘ladder’ again. But, take heart, we are not alone and not fail proof either, must look after ourselves too my friend x
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See I’ve been thinking I could be suffering from this myself but when ever I can get in at the doctors they just fob me off with depression and anxiety. I do suffer from these but I know there’s more to it than that but no one will take me seriously. I’ve seen that trauma can cause fibromyalgia in individuals interestingly x
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5 weeks gone and yes exhausted most of time
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I lost my husband three years ago now, and was just thinking this morning how weary I am, like many others tired and exhausted all the time. I keep going for family and especially grandchildren, but it is so hard 
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Yes I feel tired all the time too. At first it was because I had developed insomnia but now I’m on antidepressants I can sleep but the medication is making me tired. Hoping to come off the medication in December xx
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Yes; nearly 11 months for me, but I still get very tired doing just normal daily things.
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