My days are long every minute is hard just to get past each day is exhausting. Then the lonely nights. My life is empty but have so much to do.
I am lonely but there’s people about.
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I think we all feel like that so in that sense you’re not alone…
There’s lots of us having similar emotions, feeling lonely and isolated.
Grief is exhausting and it’s OK to do just as much as you can manage! Don’t try and do everything all at once, it’s impossible… it’s OK to take time out to grieve, whatever you have to do will be there later… look after yourself first.
Keep checking in here, you’ll get lots of support
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Thanks for replying
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Im feeling this way too, i just keep thinking i should have done more, seen the signs, been less complacent etc. Suicidal thoughts keep entering
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Same , wishing so hard I hadn’t taken everything for granted , never thought this could really happen to me 
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We all have regrets in wish we gave it more.
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I think we all go through this… could I have done more, did I do something wrong, why didn’t I notice, why didn’t I fight harder for answers…
The truth is, we all did our absolute best with the information we had, in the time we had.
These thoughts and the guilt are all a part of grieving.
I keep going over and over this in my head but when I speak it out loud to my counsellor, I know that I physically, mentally and emotionally could not have done more.
Hang in there and allow all these feelings to come and go. Keep sharing your thoughts here so you know there are others than understand and can support you
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Yes 
we all think we could have done more, given more but we just could not at the time.
Good your getting super, how is the therapist, how is it going.
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@lonlydel Counselling is working for me…the first couple of weeks felt a bit uncomfortable.
I take everything that’s in my head, talk about it and try and leave most of it with her.
It’s helped me to answer my own questions… saying the words out loud seems to make things clearer.
And most importantly, it’s my safe space where I can talk freely about Nigel without worrying I’ll make someone feel uncomfortable talking about him, I can talk about the people who I feel have let me down and I can talk about the people who have held me together.
Are you having Counselling, or thinking about it?
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Yes I am looking to do therapy and chat about my loss.
I have so much to go over it’s going to be hard.
Lots of love
@lonlydel I do hope you find it useful. It might be tough and emotionally exhausting but hopefully a way to explore all those feelings we have no idea what to do with.
If you feel up to it, let me know how it goes.
Hugs
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Thanks for your message, you keep strong we are all thinking of you.
Lots of love
Oh I totally understand, I feel the same. I can put non the brave face and am so lucky with the amount of friends and family I have …yet I’m desperately lonely. No one can fill that void he’s left. It’s unbearable at times. I’m telling myself to hang in there… and saying it to you too. 
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Yes holding on 
keeping strong is the only why.
Can’t give up.
Every day is a struggle but one day at a time
Lots of love
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That’s what I’m doing too, one day at a time. It was minute by minute at first then hour by hour now it’s day by day.
Sharing some healing hugs with you 
We can both be strong
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Yes 
every day is a challenge but one more day.
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It was a very long weekend. Very lonely and Very upsetting. It seems I am the only one that’s not having fun, not going out, it feels very lonely.
Every day seems to be the same. No light at the end of the tunnel, no why out the quicksand, being stuck in it for months weeks.
Hopefully one day I will be happy again.
Lots of love 
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@lonlydel It is difficult to make the effort to get up and go out!
You shouldn’t pressure yourself to do that when you’re not up to it though.
Even though I’ve been out, done stuff and seen friends, it has still been a long and lonely weekend. The silence at home is deafening, the hours alone so much longer…
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Yes lonely nights and days are endless.
Lots of love 
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