Only just seen ur message. Thank you. I hope ur ok, better.
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It’s horrible situation . I lost my mum over 3 years ago to cancer having lived with her all my life . Life does not feel same just knowing my mum was in the house made me feel loved and protected . Watching tv and our occasional chinese take away seemed so cosy and special. I just feel so lost and lonely life just seems so different i have no mojo for anything
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Hold on in there
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Your story is my story ! I was my mums carer for over 20 years until she died suddenly in 2021 due to a stroke . Never married and no children. Now i live alone and struggle every day . 12 months nearly since you posted and i hope life is a little easier for you .
Take care.
Angie x
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You keep strong too. I promise you it does get more bearable. You learn to live with the loss and look at things in a totally different way.
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Hey all, just lost my mum barely two weeks ago. She was fine one week, gone the next. She wasn’t just my mum but my best friend too and I just find everything so hard knowing she’s gone. She was only 57 and trying to come to terms with it, with everything we can’t do together anymore is a massive struggle.
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Lost my dad who lived with me just recently and now I live alone too. Struggling so much and don’t know what to do with myself without him, we did almost everything together.
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Hi. Its so difficult living alone when you are also grieving . Im not cut out for it but i keep fighting on . I feel for you as i understand how hard it is .
Love Angie x
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It’s terrible, I don’t know how to do it. Every day is either bad or worse and it feels like I have no fight in me. Thank you for the kind words.
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Lost my mom 7 weeks ago. She passed away while holding my hand. I can’t get it out of my head. It’s the last thing I think of trying to go to bed and the first thing I remember when I wake in the middle of the night.
I thought she had UTI and took her to the emergency. There, the doctors told me she had pneumonia and liver cirrhosis… 4 days later she passed in the ICU.
Never married and no children for me. We took care of each other the past 17 years and I don’t regret any second. I’m not sure I can find any other purpose in life. Nothing feels good and each night is a fight to find some sleep. I often think ending it will release me from this prison of being alone, but I know she wouldn’t want that for me. It’s the only thing that’s keeping me here. I wish I could hear her voice.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. 
My dad and I took care of each other for years too and suddenly losing that closeness is beyond terrible. Like you I struggle to find purpose and meaning in anything right now.
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hi ulma, i’m sorry for your loss. losing someone who knew us better than most with unconditional support and love is devastating, i agree. being alone, without family, is another burden some of us share and i empathize with you wholeheartedly. my mother was 89 and taking care of her was my purpose for the past 17+ years. i find myself not knowing what to do anymore half the time i’m awake. am i building for the futue or am i retreating and preparing for my own lonely demise? things that use to entertain me and food i once enjoyed seem meaningless and unfulfilling now. my fridge is empty and going to the store is a burden. and now the holidays are upon us beckoning us to wallow in more despair and misery… i miss my mothers smile
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Same here, I have no idea what to do during the days that never seemed so long before. Or with the rest of my life. It’s such a total upheaval of everything familiar and it feels like wandering aimlessly without a compass.
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there’s a saying which hits home for me:
if you live in the past you’ll invite depression
if you live in the future you’ll invite anxiety
if you live in the moment you’ll invite peace of mind
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A lot of truth there and something to strive for though it’s hard to achieve.
yes, living in the moment is only minutes or hours for me, at best…
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Yes. And it hurts pretty much every one of those minutes. It’s exhausting.
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Hi Peterb, lost my mother in January, died in my arms from dementia as she drowned in her own fluids, we had lived together for some 13 years and she was ill for the last 4, last 6 months off her life I hardly slept, on call 24/7, her principle carer and basically in charge of her end of life care, spitfire pilots in the battle of britain got more rest then I did, she wanted to die at home and frankly there was no ware else and the country was at war with covid, cover was stretched, and I had to step up to the plate and care for her day and night under frankly worse then war time conditions, my health is broken, I have hypertension, ptsd and depression, and I can never get that moment out of my head.
hello tim, i’m truly sorry for your loss. mothers are sacred in my opinion. our relationship with our mothers is most likely the longest and the deepest we will ever share. she carried us for 9 months in her womb and suffered great bodily pain in bringing us into this world. the only solace i have in her death is that i was holding and comforting her when she took her last breath in this world.
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same hear, i was comforting my mother right up to the time off death, had held her hand day and night for 8 days
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