Lit a candle for my darling wife Marian.
What a wonderful idea to light candles at 19:00 in their memory!
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So sorry to hear that Marg . Our grief is a heavy burden but it helps to know that those here understand our pain . We were all linked by our emotions last night . I could feel it as I sat and watched the candle flicker . I hope you got through today ok and I send you my heartfelt good wishes for the coming year … Noel .
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Many thanks Noel yes get to end of next week New Years Eve my hubbys 80th birthday.Then of course anniversaries of their passing Feb Chris March Mark.But I will carry on for them I know thats what they would want. Xxxxx
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Hi Freedomlass
I am so glad u managed to get ur picture on. It is a wonderful picture.
To all
Yesterday was hard but i really felt a sense of peace when we all lit our candles at 7pm on xmas eve. It was a very warm feeling to know we were all joined together no matter the miles. That is how i feel about my son Conor. He is just away for a while and that helps me get thru days. Sometimes i feel him near and other times not so much. He is always there when i really need him.
I hope u r all doing as best as u can.
Love and hugs
Pauline x
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Thanks Pauline, yes it was a hard day to get through and today is no different as it’s 8 months today since Barrie was taken from me it’s like a double whammy, I think how you say ‘he’s just away for a while’ is a good way to look things, one that I am going to try myself, when Barrie was still here his job took him away from home in the week so we were only together at the weekends and holidays of course. So far I haven’t really felt like Barrie has been ‘with’ or near me which in many ways hurts the most, I ask him every night if he’s going to come for a visit but he never does. I even used his favourite perfume yesterday but even that didn’t work. 
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Dear Freedomlass
Don’t try to force feeling that he is around. It will happen naturally. I wear a ring with Conor’s ashes in it so he is with me wherever i go. I used to wear his necklace but was so scared of losing it. Its about finding a way to keep them present with u so u don’t fall into the abyss. Even if u did we r all here to help u climb back out. Sometimes it day by day and others it minute by minute. Always try to do something kind for yourself every day. As living in this torment and anguish is exhausting. Being self kind is not selfish. U r the only one who knows how u feel in that moment. I use a meditation app called smiling mind that is totally free. It really helps. I also listen to my body and what it wants to do. If i am 2 tired to get up, i will stay in bed. If i need to be around people i message friends. As parents we spent our lives taking care of our children now is the time when u have to take care of yourself.
Love and hugs
Pauline x
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Thanks Pauline i wear my hubby’s wedding ring as although ive had my ring enlarged about 3 times once again it doesn’t fit me so o wear his, mine is on a chain with a locket which has his picture in on 1 side and his ashes on the other, there are inscriptions on front and back that reads ‘Always on my mine, forever in my heart’, i never take it off so he is alwys with me in part, i am going to look for the you mentioned in the hope it helps me to find me again.
Thank you
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What a great idea, I will join in with this on the 24/12 at 7pm to remember my dad who sadly passed away unexpectedly on 29/12 last year, so first Christmas without him
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Tony 1 back last time I was on here lost my wife of 56 years 20/19 then lost my brother 20/20 then lost my other brother 20/21 plus had to go true postratt cancer thank goodness I’m all clear i too light 3 candles at 7 o clock every Christmas Eve its been 4 years since my wife passed still coming to terms with that does it ever get better too every one on here hope you all have a great Christmas i know it’s hard but keep the faith and god Bless you all 
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It’s been just over two years since Brian died I will definitely be lighting my candles again on Christmas Eve. I cannot begin to say how much I miss him.
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It will be nearly 8 months since my dear Chris died, cardiac arrest, I too will light my candle on Christmas Eve, keeping our love and memories safe in my heart, knowing it is not just me who feels such sadness is a great support, love to everyone x
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I am now just over a year and I will be lighting a candle at 7pm on Christmas Eve the same as we all did last year. It was so comforting imagining everyone else doing it as well. All those beautiful little flames lighting up the whole country.
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Is everyone lighting a candle this Christmas Eve for all our love ones
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I will be at 7pm for my dad who sadly passed away unexpectedly on 29th December last year, so first Christmas without him
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I really like that idea and I will definitely be doing that for my beautiful wife Elissa on Christmas Eve
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I will also do this in memory of my husband Keef whom I lost in February of this year, but also I will remember that it was Christmas Eve 1984 that my Dad suddenly died. I have always put aside a time to reflect on Christmas Eve because of my Dad but this year I will be remembering them both.
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Hi everyone I’ve not been about much this past year has had many ups and downs last year was my first without my beloved Barrie and was horrendous, I lit my candle for him then and I will be lighting again this year but a day early as I am going to my son’s this year, something we always used to do but I just couldn’t do it last year as I felt I may spoil things for the grandchildren, I still miss him so much but I am starting to feel stronger, although that could just be the meds I’m now on doing their magic, none of us well ever forget our loved ones and by lighting our candles at the same time we know, feel we are all together at that moment in time.
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Hi everybody that time of year again.We fèel the pain of loss every day but its good to know we will all be lighting our candles together Christmas eve.Mine for my beloved husband Chris 12 years now and our precious only child our son Mark who died last year. Xxxx Miss them so very much xx God bless you all x
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I haven’t been on here for a while, but I will be lighting my candle and thinking of us all.
“Never far from our thoughts - just not here at the moment”.
Grandma xx
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Love and a big hug to everyone x
It’s my 7th Christmastime without my beautiful husband. I will join everyone in lighting up the darkness at 7pm on Christmas Eve to show our loved ones how much we love, remember and miss them.
Forever in our hearts 
xxx
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