I too think it’s a great idea, even if I don’t need a candle to remember my lovely husband. I only lost him 3 months ago, and the pain doesn’t dim, it just gets worse. Sometimes I just can’t see the point …
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I also lost my husband in September and agree with you I’m feeling worse than ever,couldn’t believe he wasn’t coming back at first now know the awful truth,trying to go on without Steve is heartbreaking,painful
I to light candles every night in front of his photographs and will join the others,with a special candle on xmas eve 7.30
Take care
Christine x
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I’m really sorry that you feel this way Lois.
Sending my love and hugs. Xx
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My first Xmas without my wife Susan, I have her ashes scattered at the bottom of the garden overlooking the fields, I will go and sit with her on Christmas eve and light a candle
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I lost my husband last Christmas morning
Will be lighting a candle
Miss him so much cant get In a Christmas mood
Just wish he could have ad one more Christmas say with me
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Yes I will definitely do that. Light a candle for my husband, on Christmas Eve, he died 4 months ago today and every day since then has been horrible. I miss him beyond words. I don’t know how I will get through Chrismas. I will never be the same person again, that person died with my husband.
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I agree with all you say I am the same it’s horrific xx
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I will light a candle what a lovely thing for us all to do together. My first xmas without my lovely Gerry x
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Hello everyone
I am so pleased that we are going to light candles together on Christmas Eve at 7.00 pm…somehow it brings us together and provides fellowship in our grief.
Christmas in its purest sense is all about love and hope…we are each of us where we are because we have known love …and if hope is often elusive we can look up at the sky at night and know that those amazing stars are shining for us as a reminder that none of us is ever forgotten and love lives forever.
Thank you to all those who work to make this site a sanctuary for us and may all of us know calm and peace this Christmas and beyond.
Take care xx
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Yes, thats a lovely idea.
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The nearer Christmas gets the more emotional I get, I only have to think of my wife(Susan) and I’m a n emotional wreck, people in the village see me like this and cross the road to avoid me
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David,I feel the same,we are on a grief stricken roller coaster I know people who have not gone through the loss of our wife/husband just don’t understand the heartbreaking, devastating life we now have to live
I’m sure like you I’m struggling badly sobbing constantly find it hard to leave our house,I’m a different person now
Take care
Christine x
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Thanks Christine, it’s hard, people say you are brave and strong, when I’m out with the dog I try and put a brave face on, but behind closed doors it’s a different matter, I was told today to try and enjoy Christmas, what a joke!!,
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David,as I said people don’t understand our loss,my husband passed away 12 weeks ago tomorrow how are we expected to enjoy Christmas without our loved ones,I haven’t even put up our tree,to painful without Steve to help me
This is not the life me and my husband expected we had plans for our future all gone now so unexpected
Christine x
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You are both so right. I’m so tired of people telling me to be brave and look to my memories for comfort - they haunt me. Our future together has been taken away. My Derek did everything that society asked (and more) throughout his life. He kept himself healthy and exercised - kept his weight stable and didn’t drink or smoke…… He was a good man. I had him for 49 years, we grew up together.
I’ve being wrapping presents for the family and doing Christmas cards, and the amount of times I’ve scrapped them as I keep putting both our names in. Life is just utter misery.
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It would have been our 52nd anniversary in January,I’m so sad can’t stop crying Steve was such a lovely person,didn’t tell him enough,I can hardly speak without crying can’t get over this
I’m sorry to people who think time will help me,it won’t when you lose the person you thought would be here for years to come the pain is to much,I must admit Iget dark thoughts but I have to think of my 2 grownup children and families they don’t deserve to lose there mum as well
Christine x
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This is my first Xmas without my husband who passed away 7 mths ago .After reading about the lighting of the candle on Xmas eve it gave me the courage l needed to bring my husbands ashes home which l had been unable to do so till now. I will light my candle and have his ashes with me now which will help me get through that special time we both loved Xmas Eve.To you all out there light the candles and bless you all.
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Christine I have thought similar. Like you it is the thought of my two adult children and five granddaughters that makes me try to put one foot in front of the other. Like you, I should have told him more over the years how much I loved him. I know he adored me and our family. To see this tall, strong, vibrant man eaten away by cancer just kills me. He left us on 3rd July this year and it’s getting worse, not better. Take care Christine xx
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That’s how I feel it us getting worse for me also,really struggling today,been so upset,lonely miss him so much its painful,there is no ending to this grief,
Take care
Christine x
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My younger sister too was taken on the 3rd of July this year, I’ve never felt pain or sadness like this before, my heart breaks for her husband who now lives alone, he is staying in contact with us all the time so that’s good but the pain of loss is great, the pain of memories that aren’t going to be made is just as bad, my sister was like a second mum to my kids, she took them to see santa every Christmas eve when they were younger, she just loved Christmas. I will light a candle and my thoughts and prayers will go to everyone who has lost x
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