I’m so sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you. I will never forget that day, but at least I was with him as he slipped away. I was holding his hand and telling him how much I loved him. I met him when I was 16 and there has never been anyone else for me. Ironically he died with exactly the same cancer as my mam (bladder and kidney). I found her dead on the floor 35 years ago. It seems to me the outlook for that cancer has not improved much since then - my mam died 18 months from diagnosis and my Derek 17 months. Nothing worked. Your sister sounds lovely xx
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Sorry that happened to you, my sister was such a gentle person, very stubborn which drove me mad but that what made her special, she had cancer, womb cancer they said, grade 1 slow spreading they said, when she started to become ill they look at the cancer, they said infection so put her on antibiotics, she had been given Coil as hormone treatment, they said it had fallen out but a month or so after antibiotics not working and she was still ill a nurse informed her the coil was embedded in her womb surrounded by blood but they don’t want to go prodding, she ended up bleeding to death internally in agony, we got postmortem to be told the cancer was aggressive and had spread to her stomach, liver, lymph nodes, her lady parts but they never picked any of it up, we were told at 11pm on the 2nd she needed an op but they had her on blood thinners, she was dead just after 3am, we feel so let down by the hospitals that were meant to be treating her.
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Hello,
I have just read your post and could hardly believe my eyes. What an absolutely dreadful and heartbreaking story - my heart goes out to you.
I wanted to write just so you know you have been heard. It’s late and people might be asleep and not answer and you might feel alone.
I haven’t shared your experience, so I can’t give you any advice or comfort in that respect… (My amazing husband died last year, which is why I am on here). I just hope you can cope with it all. Your experience made me cry, and I don’t even know you, but that’s how much it touched me.
Big virtual hugs to you. X
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I am so sorry your sister had such a dreadful experience. It sounds barbaric. X
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That would be lovely. Thought my daughter Laura would have been spending Xmas with us this year xx
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I too light a candle every day for my husband eho passed 5months ago but will still light one at time suggested in support of all of us who are or been through greif
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My son died just over 10 weeks ago. I’ve been lighting a candle every evening since. To know that others are lighting a candle on Christmas Eve at 7pm will be a comfort to me.
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Such a lovely idea. This will be my second Christmas without my lovely husband Neil. He passed on 23rd November 20 so I barely acknowledged Christmas last year. Feels harder this year. I will light a candle in memory of previous wonderful Christmases with the love of my life.
Peace to you all.
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I would like to do this and 7pm is good for me. I recently lost my Mum and my niece has terminal cancer at 9 years old, it is lovely for the community to do something like this in solidarity for all who have lost someone
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I’m so sorry and so so sorry about your niece x
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I always light a candle at Christmas for my husband and now can think that others will be doing the same is comforting so will do this at 7pm .
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I will be in USA for Christmas and we are 5 hrs behind. So I shall light mine at 2pm xx
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This sounds like a lovely idea. My first Christmas without our beautiful mum who was the light our world. Will happily join in x
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Yes I light candle by my husbands photo most nights in the winter months especially . Will definitely light one Christmas Eve at 7 pm as hopefully will be with son and family . I will explain to my two grandchildren why we are doing it for grandad . No doubt they will think it’s for Santa 
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This is something I do each year to remember my Father and Sister, it will be particularly hard this year after recently losing my mum to Covid. Thankfully Durham Cathedral provides an air of calm that will help me cope during this period of loneliness.
I set myself the task of creating a list of all of the things mum and I would do in the week leading up to Christmas, simple things like going for a walk in her favourite forest, having the first mince pie of the season together. Always ended with the lighting of candles in the Cathedral on Christmas Eve. Something about holding onto traditions that is really helping me, painful and always ends in tears but helpful.
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Yes would love to take part 7 is ok with me
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I think that is a lovely idea. I’m not celebrating Christmas because my mam isn’t here and I can’t imagine ever celebrating again. I will be lighting candles around my memory tree for her too. See you all at 7 xxx
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum Neil. This too will be my first Christmas without my mum, who I’ve spent every Christmas with since 2007 when my marriage broke up and my dad died.
Take care and look after yourself.
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Hope lighting the candles will bring us comfort knowing we are alighting them st the same time. My husband passed away last Christmas morning my house used to be full of decorations. Big tree couldn’t do it have not even put a Christmas card up just want the day to pass Hugs to all
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