Thank you for your message.
I can’t wait for the bearable days
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Linda i found the first 2 years really difficult, & no i wouldn’t want to go back 2 that hell again.
I find that too. Sometimes I will speak a lot about my husband but so strange that it is always in the past tense. I will say to my son remember when you and your dad used to do this/that? and then maybe something will come on the TV that he used to like. There was an item on the news the other night about Black Sabbath getting back together for one final time. Jay would have loved learning about that he was a big Ozzy fan and a fan of rock music in general. When I hear the song Paranoid now I smile because I know he would have cranked up the volume on the TV or if he was driving and it came on the radio he would turn the volume right up. Deep Purple, Iron Maiden, Pink Floyd etc were all his favourites. 
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Last 2 days have been especially bad for me. I lost my husband on the 26th of March after his second heart surgery. His first was on the 18th and every thing that could go wrong did. He was on life support , echmo and dialysis for 8 days before they decided to take him back to theatre to try and fix him. As a family we were given no say in what happened and he only lived 11 hours post surgery. Crying most days at the minute . Don’t know how we are going to get past this.
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I am so truly sorry for your loss
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Thank you . Know you have your own sorrows to keep. It’s hard for us all. X
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It’s fine do you want to talk?
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Yes that would be nice
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You start whatever you want to talk out I will listen
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How are you doing ? I am back at work 3 days a week and work have been really supportive. I have 3 kids but none live anywhere near me . It’s when I come home at night or weekends it’s the worst.
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Never mind about me. Chat away
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What do you do for work?
Here for you too . We knew there was a 30 per cent chance he wouldn’t survive and as I knew as a health care professional the surgery was risky. The only saving grace was he just slept away he never recovered consciousness. We have had to celebrate his 66 birthday which would have been his retirement, Father’s Day and what would have been our 43rd wedding anniversary with out him. Don’t know how we will ever get past this
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Aah I am so sorry. The only thing I can say is live hour to hour.
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You too . Here if anyone needs support or to chat to someone too ,anytime
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That is very kind
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Thankyou very much very that would be very helpful I lost my beautiful wife on December just before Christmas I’m 76 now and three bedroom houses is a very lonely place we were married 52 wonderful years and the pain of losing her is unbearable we have four adult children but they don’t to the house very often the night are the werst I try to mixs with different groups but I start to cry very easily thank you your time
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