Always seems to be the simplest and little things that can trigger things off. 
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I just can’t stop crying. I wish I would sleep
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I feel for you Vicky. I started my sad journey in April when my wife of 42 years passed. I am not really expecting things to get easier. I just try to fill the vacuum every day. I feel that everything has to be planned now because all the old spontaneity has gone. Take care.
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Losing your husband or wife, is not like losing any one esle,
id imagine except a child. Because we lost our soul mate. Im nearly 8 years without my husband & iv never got over him dying. You just do the best you can.
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You are right Pauline.
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Does it get easier at all?
I am sorry for your loss
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How are your days?
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Really, really bad. Cry non stop and can’t sleep
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You poor thing. So sorry.
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Yes you are so right Pauline but would hate to go back to those first 2 years which to me were the worse.
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Do you sleep?
Cat, I have started to learn how to manage the grief, My Darling wife left me in April 2024. I now can remember something happy that happened with Elizabeth and not burst into tears, sometimes enjoying the moment without sadness. I really noticed it last weekend Saw an old friend that I had not seen for a long time as he lives in Spain on the Friday, he had lost his wife. and we talked about our wives. I saw my son’s family including the grandchildren on the Saturday and met up with my daughter on the Sunday. Not a tear remembering Elizabeth on all three days and including her in the conversations. Really happy time.
Hopefully you will start getting there having the happy memories without the overwhelming sadness. Sending you a big hug, like from your brother.
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Thank you so much for your kind words.
I am in hell
Yes I sleep. Sometimes I feel emotionally drained. It is hard not sleeping and feeling so distraught and I feel your pain.
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Nothing works. I can’t think straight anymore
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Cat6
I feel the same it’s lonely I hate it just want to touch him and hold him again the awful ending id still with me it was 2 weeks of pain terminal agitation but sound terrible but I would even go back to that to hold him closer more tightly. I don’t belong anywhere and no matter who comes or where I go I am still alone without Simon by my side as we always were
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Can your doctor help?
They gave me small amount of sleeping pills I have ms etc so they are limited
I know exactly what you mean . I waked Declan for 9 days I did not want him to leave for the funeral. Hell on earth
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Cat6 I lost my husband in January this year , I totally understand how you feel. Its like no other pain ive ever felt and I miss him soooo much. But I have realised that the tears are not as frequent , but more intense when they do come. People say time heals, I know nothing will heal the loss of my best mate, soul mate and husband Martin, but am beginning to feel that time makes things a bit more bearable. Sending you hugs .YNWA x
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