I think you should @Caroline2303. You need it.
Lizzie1918
Did you have counselling?
If you did, did it help at all?
Jim68
Did you have counselling?
If you did, did it help?
No Caroline I haven’t think there is a long waiting list here but if you get the chance then give it a go
I have been sending Ed texts on my phone pouring out all my sorrows settles me for a wee while I get to say all the things I don’t have the courage to say to anyone else how scared and lonely I am ? could you try this or emails? Take care 
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No I didn’t Caroline but I am told it is helpful. I may need it at some point.
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Aww I’m always here if needed 
It’s just so hard isn’t it.
I never ever imagined what life was going to be like even though I thought I had prepared myself from the very start of being diagnosed.
I understand Caroline. I thought I would be prepared too but the speed of the decline and my wife’s passing when it came knocked me for six. I just never imagined myself in this lonely place.
My GP suggested counselling, i personally did not find it helped. I have found more support on here
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Hi Caroline ,
I’ve started counselling with the bereavement service at our local hospice. It’s 1 to 1 and it does feel a bit strange talking to a stranger to begin with. I’ve only had 2 sessions so far, but I have to say after this second visit I did feel calmer . ( first one I think I just cried throughout . ) If you can get it , what have you got to loose, give it a go .
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Jim 68
Awww I understand 
Sending you a big hug
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JeanetteR1
If I get a place I will definitely be willing to give it a go.
It’s got to be worth a try.
Let me know how you get in with it.
@Caroline2303
Hi. I actually heard from the council today. I’d completely forgotten I’d emailed them to see if there were any bereavement groups locally, it must have been 6 weeks back but they got in touch.
The chap was very helpful and gave me local numbers and told me to ring back anytime.
Maybe if you do the same with your council they might be able to help put you in touch with a group or one to one or just phone calls from befrienders.
My John was one many years ago before I met him and used to visit people or ring them once a week…
Mitzi1
Thank you very much.
That’s a very good idea!
Hi Ali, I am so sorry for your loss. Much of what you say resonates with me and my experience all those years ago.
We may anticipate our loss, we may know that we are going to lose our partner but when it happens, despite that knowledge, the grief can still overwhelm us.
Keep yourself busy, join a walking group or a local bereavement group if there is one, contact with other people can really help. They say learning something new can be really helpful but I gave up on Spanish!! That said, I really enjoyed the classes and meeting new people.
There have been some other great suggestions posted in reply to your message.
The pain of loss never really goes away. Its always there, but with time, we manage to live with it though it can come back at any moment like a giant wave to knock us off our feet, it then disappears to resurface months or even years later.
I wish you well as you try to navigate your own path through grief. Keep posting here for support or even just to let us know how you are getting on.
Best wishes
John
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John3
Thank you very much
Thankyou for your kind words.
I lost my husband in January. I understand completely about the tears just coming. I think grief is like the sea, its calm most days but then it suddenly becomes massive waves when you least expect it. I also wonder if theres a limit to the amount of tears we have? They flow so easily and unexpectedly. I tell myself its ok to cry, its ok to feel sad because ive lost the person who loved me more than anyone ever has or ever will. Xxx
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I lost my husband of 51yrs a year ago, i still cry most days. I feel for you .
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Thank you xxx
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