Rob05
You’re very lucky you have a bereavement group in your area.
Where I live there’s absolutely nothing at all sadly.
I would 
to have a chance of meeting up with other people in the very same situation as myself.
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@Rob05
Hi. Have you tried emailing your council.?
I did a few weeks ago n I’d actually forgotten I had and a guy got in touch with me last week and told me of one or two various places in my area. Also said if I needed more help to ring him back…
Might be worth a try if you haven’t already.
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Marsey I feel exactly the same as you. Loneliness is a huge thing for me. My family are all far away , they’re very good at keeping in touch, but I can go for days without seeing anyone. There are no groups near me , I think it would help if there were as that would get me out of the house. I get up in the morning and find it very difficult to face another day. I go to bed early, close the curtains and shut out another day, not that I sleep. Surely we can all find some bit of ( normality ) in our lives to help us on this awful road . X
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I sympathise. It is so tough and I feel that the calls and messages are drying up. I force myself to do things because I am conscious that this could go on for years. Not a prospect I am looking forward to.
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Jim 68 like you the calls from others are now few and far between, apart from close family. I think rest think because a few months have passed I’m ok. I understand untill they’ve been in our position they don’t know what it’s like. I must start planning and keeping myself more occupied.
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It isn’t easy @Patsy219 but I don’t think we have any choice, do we?
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Grief is hell, & the loniness is a killer
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Morning Jim n Patsy.
Being lonely is a horrid situation to be in and no one should be.pp
Patsy…do you FaceTime friends n family. It’s not like someone physically being with you but when we write on here we’re not actually seeing the people that help us so maybe if you can FaceTime it will help.
Jim…it’s awful trying to fill time but to be honest I’ve come to the conclusion I can’t and it’s ok not to.
I am extremely lucky I have family nearby and numerous cousins and friends but at the beginning of this awful journey we are all on I tried to fill that void but nothing ever will.
Volunteering is a good way to go though…
Pauline should have been on my last post…
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Thanks @Mitzi1. I have an elderly dog to look after (or he looks after me). This limits my ability to do other things but I wouldn’t wish it any other way.
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Hello Mitzi, thank you for suggesting face time. I don’t know how to do that, I think it’s a great idea, I’m not very good at doing things on my tablet, hopefully my family will visit in the summer and show me how its done. I hope you’re having a good day and everyone else is too. X
Hi Patsy
I just wanted to say that I echo what you said about the calls bejng few and fat between. Likewise, I think the general consensus is, that I’m five months in from losing my mother and that I should be ‘over it’ Nothing could be further from the truth though. I’m back at work as I cant afford not to be, as im on my own.
I had a friend call me in April, a best friend really. She said that she was coming up to my area…but caveated that wirh saying,…‘she didnt have time to see me’ as she was doing x,y,z. She hadnt seen me since I lost my mum, and she knew how close I was to her. It rely did feel like a punch in the guts. I’d rather she never told me she was going to be in the area!
Wishing everyone love and strength through this awful journey. x
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Hello Jani, so sorry for the loss of your dear Mum. It’s a pity your friend said she would visit. People really don’t understand. My sister was so good when my husband died phoning all the time and for weeks afterwards, now very rarely does she call, if I ring its voicemail or she’s in a rush. I believe she thinks I’m ok now and doesn’t mean anything unkind, but it hurts. Maybe your friend is the same . Sending you a big hug. X
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Is anybody there just can’t stop crying
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Im the same crying 2 day, cant help it. Feel so alone.
Even when people call I have never felt so alone in my life
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Cat6
Me too.
6 weeks ago my husband died,
3 weeks ago was the funeral.
This week in particular I am really struggling to get out of bed every day, not because I’m tired, because I can’t sleep but because I’m beginning to feel like what’s this all for, I can’t be alone after 50 years.
I don’t want this life,
I hate it.
I want my old life back !!
There is nothing in my area at all!
Talk about feel like I’m on a desert island!
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PaulineM1
I am exactly the same here!
I have never ever experienced such
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Grief is hell, & my husband died over 7 years ago. But the pain doesn’t go away. & the loniness is a killer. Take care
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Well my friend went are in the same boat
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