I’ve never spoken to anyone properly about losing my mum, just friends and family really. I’ve tried path finders and they told me my needs are too “complex” I lost my mum in 2018 when 18 and I’m 25 now. The older I get and the more she misses out on, the worse I get. The fact she won’t be at my wedding, or see her grandchildren someday and how I’m going to manage grief around that is still so scary.
I lost my uncle in 2023 too, and ever since then I’ve had the worse health anxiety/OCD and I truly feel just crushed by everything.
Someone please tell me it gets better, because I still feel like the same little scared girl sat in the hospice waiting room sobbing.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum, @fairytalesarenotreal. You are not alone. Many of our members have lost their mums and will understand some of what you’re going through.
You might also want to read this thread, where some of our members who’ve lost a parent talk about health anxiety:
I’m giving your thread a gentle, “bump” - I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support.
I think the way you’re feeling is completely normal.
I’ve learnt that there is no right or wrong way to grieve and hat anxiety is a big part of it . I live in fear of anything happening to our adult children, or to my husband.
Be gentle with yourself. I’ve found it helpful to let the thoughts come and go, and not to fight them, just allow them to pass through your mind.
It’s exhausting.
Sending support .
I’m experiencing the same feelings as yourself after the loss of my mother in June 2024. I now have anxious feelings of something bad happening to my family, and can’t seem to shake these feelings off, even though I know it’s my mind working overboard. I think about my own mortality more now too, which doesn’t help either. I’m trying so hard to put these thoughts into perspective, but sometimes it really difficult. Hopefully in time we can both move past this difficult time in our life. Take care.
I lost my Mum on Sunday and feeling the exact same way.
Mum suffered a stroke and unfortunately there was nothing that could have been done and she sadly died that afternoon.
Like you, I am suffering massive health anxiety as well as grieving and I just wanting someone to tell me that although we never forget and will always miss them, that the pain does get easier.
I hope you don’t mind if I share a quote that is helping me a lot through this:
“ To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die”
It gives me some comfort through this - makes me know that my love and memories of Mum are something no one or nothing can ever take away.
So sorry to hear of your sad loss also. It’s a very difficult time and like you am experiencing health anxiety. I guess with time it will subside and we will start to live and enjoy our lives again, but at this moment it feels like a life time away, I wish you well, thinking of you, we are not alone.
That’s a beautiful quote, LeonieG, thank you for sharing .
I’m so sorry for your loss, there is something completely shattering about losing our Mum. I loved my dad and we were very close, but I’m grieving my mum in a different way.
I send you support. Take care .
That is utterly beautiful thank you, just missing her badly, cancer has claimed the lives of almost everyone I love and I’m only 25. Getting scared no one will be around when I start to have a family of my own
Thank you, sending you support too. I’m starting CBT therapy soonish so I’m hoping that helps. It sucks that grief can still affect us so badly regardless of time passed
Sending you support, there are always options out there for help if you need it, being on the forums has helped me a lot and speaking to a doctor about the health anxiety/CBT therapy. We’re all just trying to cope one day at a time, be gentle with yourself and remember your grief is just love for the person you cherished🩷
